Saturday, January 6, 2018

Young, Black and Broken: A Colorful Journey to Healing

"I've been on the low key grinding
Learning on the low key, shining
Tryin' to keep to myself
But you bring me out of character
Every time again" -SZA, Go Gina

Happy New Year! What can I say about 2017? Well, it was filled with trials, tribulations, and triumphs. I've managed to survive and thrive. I became the poster child for the "Young, Black, and Broken" because I was that person in 2017! How Sway?

I was diagnosed with Chronic Anemia. Anemia is a condition in which you don't have enough healthy red blood cells to carry adequate oxygen to the body's tissues. Having anemia may make you feel tired and weak. On top of being diagnosed with anemia, I was also dual diagnosed with Uterine Fibroids. Yikes. Uterine fibroids are benign lumps that grow on the uterus. Symptoms may include heavy periods, cramping, painful sex, and an urge to urinate. Over 80% of African-American women by the age 50 will suffer from fibroids. 

YoI felt as if my life came crashing down at the same damn time. I had to cancel numerously speaking engagements and outings because I was that ill and broken. I had to schedule things around my menstrual cycle because my cycles were uncontrollable. My illness debilitated my whole life, to the point I suffered from depression and anxiety. I couldn't get out of bed. Some days I would just cry my heart out. There would be days, weeks, and some months that I couldn't look myself in the mirror because I was broken and traumatized. When you can't enjoy, love, and trust the eyes looking back at you, that's brokenness Flyness. 

Besides being broken, you also have others who take advantage of your brokenness. I had to go "hot ham hoe here we go again" on a few people who have taken advantage of my broken nature during this junction of my life. I just had enough of dealing with people, especially women who violated the sisterhood code. I was sick and tired of the f^&kery, thievery and the dishonesty. 

Literally, everything around me was falling apart. In February, my husband lost his job. Agh! When a man loses his job, he loses his confidence in his ability to provide for his family. The bad news kept on coming which including being denied into a program for 1st home buyers. We took the Ls and kept it moving. I figured we weren't meant to lay our foundation down in New England. Why force something when things are supposed to flow?

While our world came crashing down, my husband and I made a difficult decision to get the eff outta Providence and relocate Down South! Let's recap, shall we! My husband became unemployed in February. The surgery took place on March 31st, we packed our apartment and relocated April 30th. Yeswe are still sane. 

notified ten people about our relocation. On the other hand, my husband went and broadcast all of our business on the Book! (Insert forever side-eye) Guess what? Everyone, including the fakers, snakes, and fair-weather folks and their Mama reached out to be nosy! Mind you. These folks don't care about us! All of a sudden you have a change of heart. Nah!

Dear God, I'm Here!

What Did I Learn During the 2017 Transition:
Healing Hurts, Healing Sucks"  Since I've been on this journey of healing internally, I have realize how full circle life is? You have to be vulnerable and ready to heal. Sometimes, healing includes sitting silently! Healing involves honesty with yourself.  We are never ready to hear the truth and often try to find an alternative way to heal instead of going through the pain. I got to reconnect with some dope people. I still cry from time to time. My marriage almost went to hell, but we are working on being better people and more divine spouses. I had to regain my strength, independence, and my holistic life. God is taking the wheel. I am letting ish go. I had to let my life crumble and rebuild. I am rebuilding and trusting the process like the Philadelphia 76ers. 

I Am Learning How to Love Drea Once Again! Loving yourself is long-suffering, everlasting, cold, warm, FLY, humbling experience. Yo, self-love and healing is scaryAF is exciting, carefree, ugly at times, sassy, FLY, rhythmic, Divine, spiritual, and Godly. Self-love is vital but complicated.  Self-love is a learned behavior rather innate. You would think it is innate but somehow down the line, we often unlearned how to love ourselves because we are thrown into this abyss of self-sacrificing and putting ourselves last. 

People don't truly trust themselves because they don't recognize themselves, they don't trust themselves, they don't love themselves. We get caught up with the controlled content of social media, chasing the bag, chasing an illusion, and chasing nonsense. Loving myself looks different on a daily basis. Loving myself consists of going to a Rapsody concert and allowing the boom bap rap to uplift my spirit. Loving myself consists of walking away from negativity and toxicity. Loving myself standing on my square and speaking my truth to power. Loving myself consists of rocking me, accepting me, validating me in a cold world that often diminished, degrade, dismiss, and disrespect the Black Woman, the Black Man, and Black Child. Loving myself consists of living an unapologetic, compassionate, and purposeful life. 

I also want to give flowers to the following people because they were instrumental in my healing process and I bet they haven't known until now! Giving flowers to My Mom, JaquettaBarbyShemikaMarkitaMichelle B., Michelle D., Chantal, Walter (My Mentor) and his wife Josefina, and Ms. Marilyn. 

Thank you to everyone who has reached out to me via email and social media to offer light, support, and encouragement during a grim time during my life. I see you baby and keep shining. 

I want to thank you for reading this honest, raw, and unapologetic blog post. I hope you will take the time to tap into some unhealed spaces within to heal the pain. Remember to trust your colorful progress and process. 

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

Goals, Goals. Goals Tribe

The Goals Tribe is a collective who are seriously ready to set, smash, and achieve realistic goals and action steps! Goals, goals, goals we ain't never taking off. 

Welcome to 2018! Many of you are trying to figure out this goal setting and New Years Resolution thing out. Many of you are trying to figure out your life but find yourself frustrated, annoyed, angry, or just depress. Well, now is the time to go ahead and reclaim your life. Reclaim your mindset, reclaim your goals. 

Did you know that a staggering 92 percent of people that set New Year's goals never actually achieve them? That's according to research by the University of Scranton. What does the 8% possess in order to achieve their goals? A few things, consistency, passion, commitment, vision, challenging but realistic goals, accountability and responsibility and action steps. 

So...are you ready to manifest and achieve your goals? If so, come join your tribe of goal setter, goal diggers and start your Glow Up. 

Goals, Goals, Goals is a self-study private group facilitated by Andrea Imafidon, founder of Brown Girl from Boston. You will have your own private Facebook book. 

In this group, you will be surrounded by individuals who are hungry to set and achieve goals as individuals and collectively. You will have access to support, videos, encouragement, and coaching. 

Goal Setting Tribe

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

The FLY Girl Effect Group Coaching

Make sure you join us for the 4-week personal, professional, and holistic group coaching program starting on January 10th! 
The FLY Girl Effect Group Coaching:  Finding Your FLYness, Journey to Self-Love, Self-Care, and Personal Development & Growth FLYness is your birthright... Have you ever asked yourself what is my life passion and purpose? Why was I created? I am on the verge of personal career, professional and overall burnout. I need to turn my life around, I need some direction in my life! Why do I put everyone's needs first and forget all about needs and I am angry about that? Here is what you will get while participating in The FLY Girl Effect Personal Development Course: Daily lessons and growth work on self-love, self-care, and personal development Daily affirmations especially focus on self-love, self-healing, self-care, and growth Four live group coaching calls with me along with recordings Private Facebook group to access lessons, growth work, networking, and coaching The FLY Girl Effect 30 Days Personal Development Course will start on your time!
Topics we will cover:
Week 1: Establishing Healthy Habits and Consistency
Week 2: Self-Care for FLY Girls-Taking Care of Our Physical, Emotional, and Mental Health
Week 3: Money Making FLY Girls-Get Money, Manage Money, and Learning Money
Week 4: Getting Our Entire Lives in Order-Freeing Ourselves From Chaos and Establishing Order
You will have daily assignments, weekly live video group coaching sessions, and a private Facebook group to hold scared and safe space for your growth, struggles, and triumphs!
Look forward to having you in the FLY Girl Group!

We have various payment options to suite your needs. 

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Saturday, December 23, 2017

Why We Should Break Up with Martyrdom Because It Is Killing Us!!!

Today, I am choosing to dismantle martyrdom one action step, one video, one post, one thought, and one advocacy at a time. Martyrdom is killing Black People because we love to self-sacrifice ourselves to be liked, validated, accepted and love by people who really don't give an EFF about us. I must include our families in this not giving an Eff about us topic because some family members don't care whether we are holistically healthy or not as long as we are sacrificing ourselves to do for them why should they.

I am tired of seeing so many women in my family including my Mother, self-sacrificing herself for the sake of helping others who don't care. I am also tired of being pulled into that realm of being on the receiving end of the toxicity of deeming not to care because I choose to utilize the powers of self-preservation and not be used like a tampon. I am choosing to break the cycle of martyrdom because it is manifesting unnecessary stress which will turn into diseases and other fatal illnesses in which that will turn into an early death sentence and I am not about dying soon.

I am here to raise our vibration, awaken our inner FLY Girl and womanhood and distrust the patterns and pathologies that are not serving us. Black People have always sacrificed ourselves and find ourselves in the same situation all in the name to save another candidate, policy or whatever the case. We have put our lives on the line constantly and I am tired of not having others to do the same. Now is the tine to pull together to save ourselves.

Friday, December 15, 2017

MICC Virtual Class with Brown Girl From Boston

Make sure you check out the teleclass from last night hosted by Moore Impactful Career Consulting, LLC! I discussed how I got started on my entrepreneur with Brown Girl From Boston, why 44 Million Americans have side hustlers and why sisterhood is important during the entrepreneurship journey.

Monday, December 11, 2017

Week 2: #ProtectYaMentalHealthMonday

Week 2 of discussing how to protect your mental health and magic during finals for all the college students in the Brown Girl Tribe! Last week we discuss study group, not cramming for tests, time management and organization management!
Week 2 Tips: 
✔️Hydrate yourself with water and hot tea with lemon and honey! If you love coffee, please drink your coffee before 2pm. Drinking caffeine after 2pm can cause afternoon crashes, anxiety, keep you up at night and can cause nightmares and night tremors.
✔️Keep healthy snacks on deck. Snack on fruits, veggies, and protein filled snacks. Meal prep is key during study for finals because you don’t have time nor resources to spend on unhealthy snacks filled with sugars, fat, and fillers.
✔️Get at least 6-8 hours of sleep. Your brain, your body and your soul need to be recharged. Don’t do all-nighters because it is taxing on your body and brain, you will have trouble remembering what you’ve studied, your sleep will be thrown off and you will be moody AF! Don’t pull an all-nighter!
✔️Take breaks, breathe, and meditate. Before you pick up a book or your phone, take 3-5 minutes to meditate, practice deep breathing and set a positive intention for your study session. You can even include your study group on these meditative sessions. This will calm down your mind and body. Setting the mood and positive intention will help keep you focus and mindful of acing your finals.
What tips would you like to share on studying and protecting yourself during finals? Share in comment section!