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Monday, June 30, 2014

Be a Doer, Not a Talker


When I first relocated back to the New England area, I complained, whined and cried. Why you ask? I left Boston at 18 years young, ready to conquer the world at Tuskegee University in Alabama. I grew sick and tired of the hustle and bustle of a major city and decided to start my adulthood in rural Alabama. When my husband proposed to me, I knew in order for my marriage to work, thrive and evolve, I had to make the decision to return back to New England. However, I didn't return back to Boston, Mass, I relocated to "No-Man's land" Providence, Rhode Island. S/O to all the Rhody residents lol.

Fast forward three years later, I realized that my complaining, whining and crying grew old very quickly. I had to change my mindset, assess and recognize the reason why my journey here in Rhode Island was important not only to myself and my family but for the people. I decided to get off the sideline and make my mark within the state of Rhode Island and New England area. I decided that complaining wasn't solving any issues but it was making me, my husband and my environment worst.

Whenever, I witness a "bystander" complaining about a specific issue, their lifestyle, friends, and environment, I challenge them to either change their attitude and mindset or stop complaining because whining and crying isn't going to change the situation. No one doesn't like surround themselves with a don'ter because it just dampens moods. If you are reading this and complaining about a situation, change your mindset, attitude and show gratitude because things can be a lot worst.

Five Way To Become A Doer


  1. Use your gifts and strengths: Many times, we spend endless times sitting in our empty and negative emotions and feelings rather than tuning in to our intuition. Once we look inward, we will be able to use our gifts and strengths for the greater good to assist those who are in need of your gifts and strengths. For example, if you are an amazing therapeutic painter, why not use your gifts to assist at risk children and adults to gain positive coping mechanisms.  It's not always about you.
  2. Stop Being Hard On Yourself: Stop waiting until everything is perfect to be a doer. Guess what, you are imperfect. When we are hard on ourselves and going through an internal struggle, we often become enslaved to our negative thoughts and complaints. Instead of suppressing our negative and empty emotions, rediscover the goodness and imperfections and embrace them fully.
  3. Find Your Tribe/Village: "It take a village to raise a child." -African Proverbs; I am a truly believer that it take a village help someone who is in need, help someone to reach their success and help someone to cope and grow. Find like-minded individuals, family members, community leaders, mentor or professional organization to support your life's purpose, vision and mission. You also need someone to help you stay accountability and on the path of being a doer. 
  4. Volunteer/Serve Others: Whenever I serve others especially girls and women who are in need and experiencing life transitions, I take the focus off myself and serve those who are in imminent need.  When you serve others, you should feel inspired, stimulated, fulfilled, and recharged. Making a difference in one's life is special because you sprinkle your goodness into the atmosphere and person which you are building a positive and lasting legacy.
  5. Just Do It! Just like Nike said. Stop procrastinating, stop complaining and be a doer. You don't want to waste time nor energy complaining about something you can change. Stop pointing the finger, stop letting your words dictate your life and circumstances. 
Remember, complaining isn't going to solve anything! Stop sitting on the sideline waiting for things to get done.

Are you a doer or a don'ter? Let's talk about it.

Thank you for reading Brown Girl From Boston! We truly appreciate your support.

XOXO,
Drea

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