From the Couch to Answering Your Calling: Why You Must Stop Worshipping at the Altar of Laziness

 Dear Sis,

A Word for Today: Stop Bending Down at the Altar of Laziness

Whewwww chile. Dr. Daniel Black said something on The Karen Hunter Show that had me nearly fall off my walking pad: "Stop bending down at the altar of laziness."

And listen, that word took me out.

Why? Because so many of us stay lying prostrate at that altar like it’s holy ground. From how we act, think, dress, and carry ourselves, to the excuses we whisper to ourselves while scrolling instead of sowing into our dreams.

Let me take it even further: I’ve been on a social media fast, Day 72 and counting.
And let me tell you, sis, that was one of the biggest altar calls of laziness in my life. The amount of wasted time, mess, and unproductive comparison I was entertaining... whew. Social media was feeding me everyone else's highlight reel while starving my purpose. I had to cut it off to tap back in.

That word hit because I realized something: You can’t be great and be lazy at the same time. You have to divorce laziness, own up when you’ve been lazy, and do the work to become the version of you you keep praying for.

See, greatness isn't glamorous. It’s not the viral posts or the applause. It's the mundane, over and over and over. It's consistency, discipline, habits, commitment, and silent dedication. It's doing it when no one is looking. When nobody is double-tapping. When it’s just you, God, and the decision to keep showing up.

So let me ask you: If you find yourself bowing at the altar of laziness, why? Aren’t you tired of settling?
Aren’t you tired of shrinking when you were built to soar?

Because here’s the truth: It takes the same energy to be lazy as it does to be consistent. The same commitment it takes to procrastinate, you can use to rise. To transform. To evolve.

Let me be real with you. Every morning, before I even check a text or email, I:

• Pray and read my Bible devotionals

• Handle my hygiene

• Get on my walking pad for 30+ minutes

• Then start my work day with a clear mind and aligned spirit

In the evening, I:

• Walk with my mom

• Hit the gym for an hour and a half

• Come home, shower, and eat something nourishing

• Pray and meditate for 10 minutes in my prayer closet

• Journal, and lights out by 10pm

That may sound boring to some, but baby, peace and power live in routine. I stopped bending down at the altar of laziness because I got tired of feeling stuck. Tired of my joints hurting. Tired of being inflamed physically and emotionally. I started seeing the impact of stress, passive-aggression, and misalignment on my body. I looked worn out. And that's not part of my calling.

I made a choice by unsubscribing from the Tribe Called Mediocre. Because sis, I want to live well into my 100s, joyful, healthy, free, and not bound to prescriptions, people, or patterns that don’t serve me.

That means I read my food labels. I track what I eat. I don’t entertain low-vibrational energy or passive-aggressive individuals who disrupt my peace. I’m becoming her even in my 40s because I refuse to accept anything less.

And you can, too.

So, I’m asking you this from a place of love: When will you stop attending the altar calls of laziness... and start answering the call to greatness?

You're not too old. You're not too far gone. You're not stuck. You're just one yes away from your glow-up. And I'm rooting for you.

With love,

Drea

Curating My Happiness and Peace: Bringing in 2024 with a Renewed Vibe

 When you the sun, you shine on all the Icaruses (uh)

Know my power, I know what my penmanship did (it's dope)

Drop so many jewels, I couldn't even put 'em on wrist (uh)

That's the sacrifice (yeah) when you this nice (ah)

They wanna dim your light (they tryin' to)

But never that (never that)

Never that (never, never, never) - Rapsody, Asteroid

Rapsody, my homegirl, my sis, and one of my favorite artists inspired me to curate and renew my happiness and peace. I had a dope 2023 with a few trials and tribulations with plenty of triumphs from dropping my book (Manifesting Your Greatness), launching The Fly Girl Shop, reaching my financial goals, physical goals, and mental health goals by attending therapy every month, and listening to healing, and embracing a new level of love through self-love and allowing someone else to love me. 

Despite all this dopeness, flyness, and often shyness, I find myself peeling back specific layers of complications, complexities, and vulnerabilities to the point I said, "Yo, people really don't care about you, but do you care about YOU?" Once I had that introspective thought, I had to shut it down. Shut down the inner chatter, the self-doubt, the negative self-talk, and often unanswered triggers. I remember burying my Aunt in late Feb/early March and having a complete meltdown after the funeral because enough was enough. I was exhausted because this was the third death on my paternal side of the family, grieving family members, my divorce finally being over after 2 years, and just finding myself no longer holding on to stoicism and holding everyone down. It took my significant other saying to me..."You should go back to therapy." I found my old therapist and got to work, and I am still working. I am thankful because I have evolved, cried, reached "aha" moments, discovered my inner strength, and made an exit plan in various areas of my life, and now I am curating my happiness and peace vibe for 2024. 

Turning 40 was also eye-opening because you find a liberation switch, and life begins at 40. I have evolved and am more assertive, wanting to live a gentler, softer, wiser, kinder, and loving life. I have had my ups and downs, but I hung in there and kept going. I had my ups and downs with my love life, but after a year and some changes later, I am still hanging in here. I find myself battling religious trauma and struggling with holiday celebrations. I have many emotions, but it helped me level up personally and professionally and move out of the way. 

I have found myself being fearless, vulnerable (which is a scary zone for me), and glowing up. I deserve all the great things I have received, am going to receive, and will experience. I am excited to curate my happiness, peace, and love. 2024 will be a vibe, and I can't wait to experience it. In the meantime, I am on a significant social media hiatus because that ish is annoying AF, and I often wonder if people listen, care, and apply the gems. I am at the point in my life in which I have to shrug my shoulders, mind my business, and focus on my happiness, peace, and love. I am focusing on living a healthy, whole, and healed life. Chile, my goal is to live until my 100s, surrounded by love and quality people such as my future husband, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and leave a lasting legacy. 

For those of you who are Day 1 or today's tribe members, I am sending you much love, light, peace, happiness, and freedom. Curate your vibe, happiness, peace, love, and a dope 2024. 

If you are interested in reaching out to me, please email me as I am on a social media detox, but my email inbox is drea@browngirlfromboston.com