Curating My Happiness and Peace: Bringing in 2024 with a Renewed Vibe

 When you the sun, you shine on all the Icaruses (uh)

Know my power, I know what my penmanship did (it's dope)

Drop so many jewels, I couldn't even put 'em on wrist (uh)

That's the sacrifice (yeah) when you this nice (ah)

They wanna dim your light (they tryin' to)

But never that (never that)

Never that (never, never, never) - Rapsody, Asteroid

Rapsody, my homegirl, my sis, and one of my favorite artists inspired me to curate and renew my happiness and peace. I had a dope 2023 with a few trials and tribulations with plenty of triumphs from dropping my book (Manifesting Your Greatness), launching The Fly Girl Shop, reaching my financial goals, physical goals, and mental health goals by attending therapy every month, and listening to healing, and embracing a new level of love through self-love and allowing someone else to love me. 

Despite all this dopeness, flyness, and often shyness, I find myself peeling back specific layers of complications, complexities, and vulnerabilities to the point I said, "Yo, people really don't care about you, but do you care about YOU?" Once I had that introspective thought, I had to shut it down. Shut down the inner chatter, the self-doubt, the negative self-talk, and often unanswered triggers. I remember burying my Aunt in late Feb/early March and having a complete meltdown after the funeral because enough was enough. I was exhausted because this was the third death on my paternal side of the family, grieving family members, my divorce finally being over after 2 years, and just finding myself no longer holding on to stoicism and holding everyone down. It took my significant other saying to me..."You should go back to therapy." I found my old therapist and got to work, and I am still working. I am thankful because I have evolved, cried, reached "aha" moments, discovered my inner strength, and made an exit plan in various areas of my life, and now I am curating my happiness and peace vibe for 2024. 

Turning 40 was also eye-opening because you find a liberation switch, and life begins at 40. I have evolved and am more assertive, wanting to live a gentler, softer, wiser, kinder, and loving life. I have had my ups and downs, but I hung in there and kept going. I had my ups and downs with my love life, but after a year and some changes later, I am still hanging in here. I find myself battling religious trauma and struggling with holiday celebrations. I have many emotions, but it helped me level up personally and professionally and move out of the way. 

I have found myself being fearless, vulnerable (which is a scary zone for me), and glowing up. I deserve all the great things I have received, am going to receive, and will experience. I am excited to curate my happiness, peace, and love. 2024 will be a vibe, and I can't wait to experience it. In the meantime, I am on a significant social media hiatus because that ish is annoying AF, and I often wonder if people listen, care, and apply the gems. I am at the point in my life in which I have to shrug my shoulders, mind my business, and focus on my happiness, peace, and love. I am focusing on living a healthy, whole, and healed life. Chile, my goal is to live until my 100s, surrounded by love and quality people such as my future husband, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and leave a lasting legacy. 

For those of you who are Day 1 or today's tribe members, I am sending you much love, light, peace, happiness, and freedom. Curate your vibe, happiness, peace, love, and a dope 2024. 

If you are interested in reaching out to me, please email me as I am on a social media detox, but my email inbox is drea@browngirlfromboston.com

Black Love Vol. 2

Dear Sis, There is Life After A Hardship

Sis, don't allow society or bitter people to tell you what or who you can't have. There is love after 40. There is love after a breakup or divorce. You don't have to chase anyone. Work on your healing, love yourself, enjoy your life, find your happiness, and stop listening to people who have ill intentions for you. The dating pool doesn’t have pee or poop; you just have to upgrade your mind, circle, type, and environment. When you start healing, you will break that pattern of attracting the same person/energy with a different name. How do I know there’s life and love after a divorce and 40? I've manifested it by healing my hurt, pain, and unresolved trauma. I put the work in and did a lot of praying (not Ciara’s prayer 🤣/Drea’s prayer)! 

Ensure you are good and ready to receive the added love and happiness. God is going to bless you with what you need. That man might be in your presence, but you don't think he is your “type,” and you friend-zone that man. Having a preference is okay, but sometimes your “type” can block you from your blessings.

Brown Girl Joy

Joy is a great feeling of pleasure and happiness. 

Joy is a choice. 

Joy is living life on your terms. 

Joy is leaving relationships and environments that are toxic and bad for our overall health. 

Joy is knowing and getting everything you deserve. 

Joy is living a life full of purpose, ease, luxury, and love Joy is contagious. 

Joy is liberating. Joy is peaceful and committing to inner peace even in the midst of chaos. 

Joy is able to get back up without aches and pains from doing this Fly Girl pose without assistance.

Joy is our birthright! To experience joy, please commit to doing your inner work. Commit to doing less and experience the joyful life you deserve.

Wedding SZN: Many People Want the Wedding But Not The Marriage

Why I'm Better Not Basic: My First Keynote Address

"Loyal to all, but when I look at these black girls' faces, I understand why I chose to be better, not basic. So it's not, not (hard to choose)" -Rapsody, Hard To Choose

May 6th, 2018, I had delivered my first keynote address, “How to Be Better in A Basic and Bitter World”! Y'all know I had to throw in my home-girl, Rapsody's Hard to Choose lyrics in this keynote address because it just set the tone for the Black girls and women in the building. I realize that we are not just setting the examples for ourselves or our communities. We have little Black girls and elders who require self-forgiveness and liberation. Before going into my keynote address, I made sure to feel the room's energy, understand my social responsibility and greet and thank people for coming out. See, part of my life's mission and assignment is to collectively get Black people to the point of collectives instead of individualism. We can achieve more things when displaying our honesty, humanistic, and authenticity to folks. We also have to realize that we are in the same situation, in which the systemic system fails us time and time again. No one is better than the next because we are in this thing together. 

During my keynote address, I discussed my breakups, divorce, bouts with bitterness, and my ongoing healing journey as a Black Woman. I gave permission to every girl and woman in the room to understand how the world views us as "Bitter Black Woman" and how we don't have to answer to what we are being called. I also flipped the script and helped the actual "Bitter Black Women" understand that healing, forgiveness, and triumph is awaiting you if you choose to work through that internal pain, which is awful. We all have choices. I also mentioned three takeaways:

 1. Bitterness is an Illness, and how we need to place boundaries around our bitterness. 

 2. Why we shouldn't internalize and take ownership of others feelings, words, and emptiness

 3. It is okay to be upset, a mess, and angry. You are experiencing emotions and feelings that should be coped with versus numbed. When you have the tools to navigate through hurt and pain, you are equipped to heal and bounce back from internal bondage and trauma. 

See, I have been there and done to make internal personal offenses, hence, why I had to deliver this message. Once upon a time, I was bitter because I didn’t work through the hurt, shame, guilt, and unresolved issues from a major breakup of an engagement to someone I was going to marry. I found myself resistant to all hurtful feelings because I didn’t want to appear weak, but I was not working through the pain. Eventually, that pain and resentment sent me seeking holistic and unapologetic healing from a therapist by doing the inner work and truly forgiving all parties involved! It took years to do all of this work.

Yes, the F word, y’all!

See, forgiveness is a revolutionary act! It is not for the faint at heart. You are a real-life G if you can forgive yourself and others!

See, I had to forgive myself first because I thought I wasn’t good enough because my ex and I split, and he got married a few months later. I took that entire process to heart and internalized every piece of hurtful emotion possible!

I was self-sabotaging everything! Eventually, it took me time to truly move to pass the hurt feelings with a therapist's help and choose forgiveness. I also had to remember that I had a choice to forever live in bondage or truly liberate myself and pass transgressions from my former relationship to grow and progress!

I’m too FLY to be unforgiving! Forgiveness is a mature act.

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Once Upon A Time I Was Temporarily Dislocated in Chicago: Confessions From A Former 20-Something-Year-Old Divorcee

2010 Lakeshore Drive, Lake Michigan, 20-something year old Drea

"Unhappy stressed, yelling don't mislead my ass

 I mean I make it so easy don't please my ass

 The shoe was on the other foot and you would leave my ass."

 Love Me Not, J. Cole

I was recently reminded, that I was once married for a short, brief period in 2010! Thanks to Facebook's "On The Day" for the reminder. I remember I used to hide the fact that I was once a 20-something-year-old divorced woman! I was only sick as my secrets and being a divorced 20-something-year old was a huge secret to keep to yourself. I had to repurpose this blog post to share my story for those who is going through a similar situationship or contemplating this similar situation. I am a firm believer to live and speak your truth in a kind and firm way. I guess I held this secret from the world because I did not want the judgment (and I am sure someone is judging, but that's cool, I see you). I did not want to feel the guilt, shame and relive the embarrassment feeling again. I was immature, hurt, and in denial about my divorce because in my eyes and the eyes of others, successful, but successful people make plenty of mistakes and share their mistakes and a hot mess.

Temporarily Dislocated in Chicago I've relocated to Chicago because I truly mistaken love for lust and like. I grew tired and weary of being in a long distance My ex-husband and I decided to become engaged after four months (Yes, four freaking months) *you don't know anyone in four months* of knowing one another and got married within six months (six months is when the mask finally comes off!) . As I look back at this, neither one of us was thinking about this major decision. My heart, low-esteem, and desperation at that time did get in the way. At first, I became excited to move to Chicago to finally be united with the "temporary like of my life," but slowly but surely the thrill was gone before the ink dried on the marriage certification. When I finally decided to make the drastic, impulsive, and one-sided decision to move to Chicago, my family, friends, and co-workers when questioned my decision. People, who intimately know me, know that I take my time and plan out things before making an irrational decision. In life, you have to take risks and this was one huge risk I took. I definitely took one for the team! Read More About My Journey in Chicago

As I have reread my earlier blog post about my divorce, I thought to myself how much of a survivor and resilient person I had to be during my time in Chicago. There were some dark days and some days filled with light and gratitude because we both no longer had to suffer in a lustful/unlikable marriage. I had to do my work and that work was difficult but I did it! I had to really heal my inner FLY Girl by reflecting on why I needed someone to confirm my greatness. I had to figure out why I was attracting certain people and their broken spirit within my life. How did my self-esteem and confidence become almost non-existence? Why did I accept emotional and mental abuse? Son, the work was real! I was like God, I just can't now. Every time, I said that I redeveloped a new fight, faith system, and restoration of myself. I had to do the work while I was existing in the valley. Yes, I had a failed marriage but that doesn't make me or another divorced person a failure. This too shall pass. I am thankful that I was able to experience this "failure" because it definitely matured me, grounded me, and taught me to become more transparent and live life to the fullest. You learn a lot from being divorced. Divorce people don't need your opinions, or the "I told you so" or any negative comments. Just love on them, listen to them and just be there. Drea's Four Tips on Overcoming a Divorce, Breakup, and Overall Hot Mess Situations: Forgiveness: I had to do a lot of work around forgiveness. I had to forgive myself and ex-husband. I am still forgiving myself and my failures. Some days, I didn't want to forgive, I didn't want to hurt, and I did want revenge. I let God handle all that because I will further Eff things up if I took matters in my hand. Forgiveness is ugly, it is not cute and I would suggest you to wear your fine trends when you are on the battlefield of forgiveness. Forgiveness takes practice. Yes, practice. Oh, did I mention practice? (In my A.I. voice) We are talking about practice. 
Grieve: Divorce is the death of a marriage. Divorce hurts so much that you wish that your ex-spouse died instead. You have to really take care of yourself and understand that you are grieving. You will experience all the stages of grieve that Kubler-Ross studied and researched intensively. I remember being so angry and depressed at work one point. I cried until I sobbed at my desk. My coworker had to put on my coat, like Bobby Byrd use to do James Brown after his performances) and get me out the building because it was ugly. I was grieving during that pivotal moment.

Release People with Love: People are going to judge you, try to throw things in your face, and bring up your past mistakes and failures in your face. What did I do? I had to release them with love. Oh those so-called friends that were "riding" with me were the same ones who judged me and sipped on major tea during my divorce and darkness. ( I didn't crumble!) Do you want to know who your true friends and family are? Go through a death, divorce, marriage, and become successful. You will quickly see who is down for you. 
You have to do your work. Son, I had to do some major restoration within. I was not always this FLY Girl. I had to do the work from previous relationships, childhood, and all other previous situations. I had to peel back so many various layers of my life. I had to get down to the core and really heal my inner FLY girl. That journey is not over. I have days in which I don't feel like getting out of bed. I have days in which I am on top of the world. I have days in which I am indifferent about my life but I don't quit on myself. I did my work and I am continuously doing the work.

I am thankful that I went through my divorce as a 20-something-year-old woman. I went through a tremendous amount of growing pangs, self-discovery, and evolve to this imperfect FLY Girl. I always knew that I was FLY but I had to grow through some thangs (yes, thangs) to see how resilient, strong, unique and awesome I am. I had to go through my divorce to grow into maturity, become a better human being and a better wife to my now husband. I use to ask God why did I have to go through such a horrific personal experience of being a 20-something-year-old divorce woman. I have received the answers and I am thankful for his insight and the people who were brought into my life throughout the struggle moments.

If you are a 20-something, 30-something, 40-something divorced person, you are not a failure. I don't care what society, your family, or "friends" thinks about divorced people, you are amazing. You are going to get through this difficult time because you are going to do your work. Make sure you are gentle and loving yourself a bit more because you are grieving the loss of a marriage and marital partner. Forgive yourself, do something every day that is going to bring a smile to yourself and restore your FLYness, and surround yourself with non-judgmental, healthy, and loving people. You got this! You don't have to heal your inner FLYness alone. There are plenty if resources such as support groups, therapists, reading material, life coaches like myself who can help you. Just remember to do you inner work to heal. It is worth it, you will grow from it, and you will survive it.

Say No to Being A Side Piece

"I can love you( I can love you) a little better than she can

I know that you (I know that you) wish that you could be my man

Cause I can love you better than she can" -Mary J. Blige ft Lil' Kim, I Can Love You

"I often wonder why anyone would lower themselves and their standards to being a side chick/dude? It destroys character, self-esteem, confidence, families, dignity and most importantly self-respect." -Andrea C. Imafidon.

I have challenged myself to become more open, vulnerable, and less fearful in my writing/blogging. It took me a long time to acknowledge how hurt, deeply scared, and nervous I was to explain how much I dislike infidelity, especially in an era in which infidelity is okayed by the masses of society. We have television shows that cater to being a side piece, and people give it the thumbs up. I am here to give the rundown on being a side piece and providing a voice for those children who are scarred (emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically) from infidelity.

I decided to blog about the side-piece movement because I am over the side-piece era. While people glorify side pieces, I make sure I vocalize my discontentment with it because no one should downplay their greatness to being a side piece for no one. Also, as a 32-year-old married woman who has half-siblings due to the stupidity and lustful moments that my Father and my half-siblings mothers decided to participate in while my Father was married to my mother. I know so many families are broken due to infidelity, and the people who are actually affected the most are the children.

I dislike infidelity! I dislike the behavior of cheaters and side pieces because everyone thinks about their instant gratification versus the holistic damage it causes to oneself, their family, and the children involved in the situation, if any. When you decide to go outside the marriage to satisfy a void, that is when you have an issue, not a significant problem. I definitely have a problem when you start procreating with the side piece and bring innocent children with a preconceived chip on their shoulders. Infidelity is destructive, and no matter how attractive, sweet, kind, and unique a person is, you should run fast as hell to get away from that married person because s(he) doesn't respect their marriage, doesn't respect themselves, or will ever respect you.

Here is a piece of Drea's story: My parents were married for over twenty years before I was conceived. I also knew my parents loved me; I felt the love and knew life was not a perfect picture despite being raised in a nurturing, loving, ing and sometimes questionable environment. I wondered why it felt as if my mom was a single parent with an inactive living father in the household. Time progressed, ed and my parents' marriage got torn apart. Imagine your parents getting divorced one day, and all of a sudden. You discover you have three "sisters" you never knew about, grew up with, or heard about until you are about 9 or 10.

Surprise, surprise, see, and another surprise! I met my half-sisters at an awkward, hurtful, ugly, and hormonal stage of my life. I was grieving the loss of my eldest brother, who was murdered, grieving the loss of a parent's marriage, being raised by a single parent, getting my period for the first time, and adjusting to life. My life was in for a rude awakening. This is a lot for an adolescent girl to deal with because you feel betrayed by both parents because you were left in the dark about this nonsense. This is why I can't stand infidelity, especially the side piece and the cheater.

Fast forward to being an adult. My half-sister, my brother, her, and I had awkward interactions. My older half-sister and I were developing a relationship, but it was challenging because she always felt slight. After all, my Father never raised her, but my Father raised my brothers and me. I thought that I was being attacked every interaction we had because she displaced her hurt and anger onto me due to the fact our Father and her mother engaged in consensual sex. The last conversation we had turned for the worst because I informed her that she was at the wrong person and needed to address her unresolved anger toward her mother and our Father. At the time, I was outraged and did not forgive my Father for committing adultery and procreating three kids.

During my wedding weekend, I was very hurt because I felt that my entire life was broken, and he never took accountability for his actions. I was even more hurt because my family was separate but kind of equal. It was fantastic to see stepdad and mom making marriage work while, on the other hand, it was sad, hurtful, ul, and disheartening to see my Father alone but gloating in his narcissism. Kids want to see their parents together because it gives them a sense of security. On the other hand, I would rather see my parents happier than tolerate one another for their kids' sake. I am not for staying together for the sake of the kids. No, no, no! Also, I can forgive the person and condemn the behavior, but I am not helping you care for three outside children who have nothing to do with me. That's only condoning the person to continue with horrific behavior.

Mind you, my Father, not with any of his side pieces! He is with one f   convenience whenever he competitor Boston. It is such a pitiful and low-level situation. Hence, infidelity is not worth breaking up a family. You are replaceable,  and you are not unique.

I was watching a lecture on black marriage, ages, and one of the main reasons why people get a divorce is because of infidelity. Will give my two cents on why you should not be a side piece. Yes, even though I am an adult whose family was torn apart due to infidelity, side pieces need some advice on how to say no to playing second best.

Say No to Being A Side Piece:
The same way you get them is the same way you will lose them. If the person cheats on their spouse/significant other with you, it will also happen to you. It is called Karma. No, you are notuniquel. No, you don't have special powers to keep that person from cheating. Stop allowing the cheater to think you are so special because s(he) told his spouse/significant other the same thing once upon a time, and guess what? They are cheating on them with you! The cheater always looks for someone to be on the side, especially if you have been promoted to the main piece.
Almost doesn't count. If you ever meet a married person and they tell you that they are almost "separated," run the hell away. It doesn't matter; it practically doesn't mean it is over. Practically, it means I am straddling the fence while eating my cake. It almost implies that the person can return to their spouse/significant other momentarily. Ask for the divorce papers. Don't believe the hypaboutin separation because that person is still legally married. If that person truly wants YOU, s (he) would like the best for you, and you should enjoy the best for you. Let that person handle their business, get some healing, and go about your life.

There are plenty of eligible single-datable people. Listen, please stop dating unavailable people. That explains a lot about you. Are you willing to be on the back burner for someone with savings, a spouse, or a significant other? There are available and eligible single people looking for the same thing you are looking for... Love, relationship, and honesty.
Look within and start healing. Why would you want to subject yourself to being a side piece? What are some areas in your life you need to heal? Start by loving yourself. Most people who subject themselves to being a side piece have low self-esteem, don't feel they can be loved because they often don't themselves, and don't want someone available because they are not available within their own lives. My advice to you is to not date and start healing. Seek coaching, there, or professional help. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve loved by someone available.

Stop wasting your time waiting for the end of the relationship/marriage. I have seen women and men waste years waiting for the overseer to divorce their spouses. 9 times out of 10, you waste great years playing second best while you will always be the "home wrecker" despite being engaged or married to your lover. Please don't you ever contemplate this low-level behavior? You are wasting valuable years sneaking in and out of the house they share with their spouse, hotel/most expenses, and other suspect areas. If your relationship must be kept a secret,  it is not worth it because you are considered the side piece. You will never be respected in  (his) eyes, their family's eyes, and whoever else eyes because you are going to be blamed.

You will be forever insecure! Finally, your lover divorced their significant other/use, and you guys are finally liberated! How wrong? You will forever be insecure and display insecure behaviors such as knowing every password known to mankind, being by his/her side everywhere because you can't trust them because you think they are cheating with any and everybody, you don't have a life because you are consumed by his/her life except when they go to work, you bad mouth their ex because s (he) told you how horrible they are and you believe that ish! No, they aren't jealous; they got sick and tired of cheating and disrespect and got rid of the trash. , You, too, will find yourself sick and tired of the lies, cheating, and insecurities and find yourself feeling not too special anymore.

You deserve to be loved because you are not the wrong person. Stop participating in destructive behavior. It is not worth being a side piece to anyone. You are worth being number 1 in your life in someone else's life. Infidelity is destructive. You just don't bounce back from being a side piece. I don't care if s (he) decided to divorce their spouse; you will not be respected by the person you cheated with because,  subconsciously, you are to blame for the demise of the relationship. No one is innocent when it comes to infidelity. Everyone plays a part in the demise of the relationship.

Thank you for allowing me to be vulnerable to share a piece of my life with you all. I had to write this piece to liberate myself and help others who are suffering in silence from being a side piece or being a child of parents who divorced due to infidelity and children outside. It is not worth it. Think before you cheat!!!!

Love and Light,
DreaA 
Brown Girl From Boston

Make Your Hot Mess, Your Hot Message!

                          "Lessons often come dressed up as detours and roadblocks." -Oprah

At 31 years young, I am learning that there is a time and place in which we should take off our mask and show another side to us. At times, you become tired of holding it together and want to fall apart only to pick up the pieces. Currently, I am in a vulnerable place in which I want to share a piece of my story to depict my journey from turning my mess into a message, my trial into a triumph and going from being a victim into a victor. 

In 2010, I found myself residing in Chicago, in the valley, on the verge of a divorce and at a pinnacle of my life. I was a HOT MESS! Day in and day out, I was having an out of body experience and living life on autopilot because it felt like my life was crashing down all around me. Yes, I lived in a nice neighborhood, in a decent, new renovated but expensive apartment within the Hyde Park neighborhood only a few blocks away from The Obamas residence and Jessie Jackson's PUSH Coalition, Headquarters but I was feeling less than Presidential? Because I was feeling broken, hopeless and angry. I asked myself 'Why' so many days and nights. I had plenty of ugly crying sessions, praying sessions and pity parties. 

One day while sitting in my Downtown Chicago cubicle, one of my coworker who I appreciate dearly and helped me to discovered my strength through the muck and mess that I was in. She looked at me while I was on the verge of a breakdown and kindly but firmly said to me, 'Andrea, you are such an amazing and talented woman, you are wasting your time and talents in Chicago.' Go home to your family because you need them.  At first, I was highly upset because she called me out on my ish! Honestly, I thought I had myself together because I was thriving at work but dying on the inside because I was going through it! I had to accept and take ownership that I was a temporary hot mess. How did she realize that I was a hot mess? I thought I had my stuff together but I was entirely wrong! 

During this process of being a mess and in the valley, I rediscovered a few things about myself:

1. There are authentic people who genuinely care about your well-being.

2. Divorces are tough but it make you a much more humble, tougher and loving person.

3. Crying cleanses the soul

4. I love myself and I refuse to compromise who I am

5. I learned that I am not a victim but a victor

Here are five ways to overcome a 'Hot Mess' Situation:

1. Don't beat yourself up, beating yourself will only make you feel worst. Stop trying to be strong all the time. Stop overanalyzing the situation because it is done. Just stop, be still and show an attitude of gratitude. Things can be a lot worst.

2. Never isolate yourself from people who are willing to support you. If you have family, friends or coworkers that are authentic and willing to love you within your hot mess situation, that's a beautiful thing. Let them love up on you. 

3. Cry! Some people have a difficult crying because of past remarks of crying equates to weakness. Crying is apart of our healing process. Crying is a healing agent. It help us to cleanse our essence and clear out the negative energy. It also help us to release the pain. Stop suppressing the negative emotions and just cry.

4. Serve others. I started mentoring before my divorce, in the midst of my divorce and after my divorce. Mentoring helped me to serve others who were facing difficulties. Mentoring helped me to realize my unknown strength. Serving others during a difficult time, is a humbling experience because you are providing a selfless act of serving. 

5. Celebrate your FLYness! Recognize and celebrate your greatness because you are an amazing and beautiful being. Go sightseeing, go to the spa, shopping, plan a trip, do something wonderful to celebrate you. For example, after my divorce was finalized, I celebrated by attending a Erykah Badu concert all by my lonesome. It was such a liberating experience because I felt like a caged butterfly waiting to be free. 

I wanted to share my story to someone who is going through some kind of struggle. You may be in a hot mess situation, with a bunch of hot mess kind of people but this too shall pass. It took me four years to openly turn my mess into my message because I was ashamed and afraid of the unknown. As, I look back at my hot mess situation, I am thankful that I went through the situation because I can triumph over my trials and tribulations, it helped me to fall in love with myself all over again, helped me to become a better wife for my loving and caring husband and the higher being brought me out of the darkness into recognize my light.  Never rush your hot mess moments or situations because it is developing your growth, strength, character and message. 

My Question to you this week: 

What message is being offered in your current 'hot mess' situation? How can you turn that mess into your message? 

Leave your comments, I'd love to hear how you will make your hot mess into your message. 

XOXO,

Andrea 

Brown Girl From Boston