Wednesday, February 14, 2024

The Guide to Embracing Change and Developing Positive Habits: Blog Featured Author: Kevin Ogle

 


Change is an unavoidable aspect of life, and it can be overwhelming, particularly when attempting to establish new behaviors. Feeling intimidated or disheartened is natural when faced with a fresh or distinct challenge. However, change is vital for personal and professional growth. This article will examine methods for welcoming change and positioning yourself for triumph with constructive routines. By using these recommendations shared below by Brown Girl From Boston, you'll be able to cultivate the appropriate mentality, foster beneficial connections, and sustain your motivation on the journey to achievement.

Embrace the Power of Small Actions

Change doesn’t happen overnight, so take small steps to start. Break your goals into smaller, achievable tasks, and don’t expect perfection. Consistency is key, so commit to your daily routine and keep pushing yourself forward.

Form and Market a Business

Starting your own business can be an exciting and rewarding change in your life. However, taking the necessary steps to protect yourself and your business is important. One popular way to do this is by forming a limited liability company (LLC). An LLC provides personal liability protection for the business owners while allowing for more flexible management than a corporation.

Next, it’s time to start marketing. Spreading the word via social media is a great place to start, but supplement this with some time-tested approaches like business cards. If you aren’t sure where to start, some tools provide plenty of templates for business card designs that you can customize. From there, share business cards with potential customers and leave some at coffee shops and restaurants.

Why Having a Mentor is Crucial for Success

A mentor can offer guidance and support when you’re facing new challenges. Look for someone who has expertise in your field or has been through a similar experience to yours. A mentor can provide valuable insights and help you avoid common pitfalls, putting you on a faster track to success.

Head Back to School

Returning to school can be pivotal, opening doors to personal growth, new opportunities, and a renewed sense of purpose. Whether formal or informal, education often contributes to a more positive outlook on life by broadening horizons and instilling confidence. With the advancements in digital education, going back to school online has become an accessible and flexible option for many. For instance, pursuing an online business bachelor's degree provides a well-rounded understanding of principles, economics, finance, marketing, and operations, equipping individuals with comprehensive knowledge to excel in the modern business landscape.

Practicing Self-Talk Can Boost Your Confidence

Your mindset plays a crucial role in change and personal growth. Speak kindly and positively to yourself, and visualize success. Take time to reflect and focus on the good things that come with progress and goals achieved.

The Importance of Establishing Supportive Relationships

A strong support system can make all the difference when dealing with change. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, encourage you, and inspire you to grow. Avoid people who bring negativity, discouragement, or cause distractions.

Seek Healthier Friendships

Seeking healthier friendships is important in cultivating a supportive and positive social circle. Reconnecting can be a great way to rekindle those relationships if you've drifted apart from old friends and acquaintances over the years. One effective way to do this is by using a search engine to find fellow high school graduates from your hometown.

You can quickly access a list of potential contacts by simply typing in the necessary name, graduation date, and school. These search results often provide options to reach out and reconnect with long-ago friends, allowing you to revive old friendships that may have once played a significant role in your life. Re-establishing these connections can bring back fond memories and offer opportunities to build healthier, more fulfilling friendships.

Be Kind and Patient with Yourself

Change takes time and effort, so be gentle and patient with yourself. Understand that setbacks are normal, but don’t give up. Take time to rest, recharge, and celebrate small victories. Self-care habits like exercise, relaxation, or meditation can help you stay motivated and focused.

Celebrate Achievements

Tracking your progress can help you stay motivated and celebrate small achievements. Keep a journal or use an app to record your daily activities, goals achieved, progress, and setbacks. Celebrate your progress with a reward like a treat or a fun activity, and use the satisfaction to drive you onward.

It takes a lot of courage, discipline, and determination to embrace change and create positive habits. It’s not always easy, but being adaptable, persistent, and patient will help you navigate challenging times and stay on track. By following these tips, you’ll be better equipped to create the right environment for yourself and achieve your goals.

 

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Monday, February 12, 2024

Maximizing Potential: The Child Welfare Raising Awareness Podcast

 


In this episode, you will hear how seizing opportunities can maximize your social work career path. Our guest, Andrea Stallworth, LCSW (inactive), is the Director of Field Education and Assistant Professor in the Social Work Department at Tuskegee University. She is also an international speaker focusing on self-care and technology education and a Certified Life Coach, mentor, digital storyteller, and social media consultant. Andrea has over 14 years of Clinical Social Work, Non-Profit, Social Services Management, Youth Development, and Leadership experience. She is the digital storyteller, content creator, and Co-Founder of The Careerist Project and Founder of the Brown Girl from Boston blog, both social impact startups focus on developing healthy and holistic individuals through career development, personal development, and professional development through life and career coaching, mentoring, and facilitating online workshops and webinars.

She earned an MSW in Social Work from The University of Southern Mississippi in 2009 and a B.A in Social Work from Tuskegee University in 2006.

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Monday, February 5, 2024

Why Promoting Black History Once A Year Isn't Good Enough

“Black history is everyone’s history.” – Andrea C Stallworth.

In 1926, Carter G. Woodson, the father of black history, dedicated one week in February as “Negro History Week,” which evolved to “Black History Month.” Black History Month is oddly celebrated during the shortest and coldest month. Many often ask, is one month enough? One month is not enough because black history is everyone’s history.

Black History Month is dedicated to learning more about the history of Black culture, historical figures, literature, and being Black in America.

As an African-American woman, I was taught about Black history at home and in particular school settings — depending on the teacher and class subject. I remember sitting in my AP U.S. History class wondering why Black history begins with slavery and skips to the constant struggle of Black Americans.

What about Black Wall Street, where black Americans in Tulsa, Oklahoma, had their own schools, groceries, banks, and economy? No mention. What about the state of Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs), and why was it so imperative to start these higher learning institutions for free slaves and the descendants of slave masters’ children? Only one or two mentions of HBCUs in modern textbooks.

Schools have a tendency to skip over Black history as if it is meaningless, forgettable, and hopeless. In school, Black history is taught in watered-down, downtrodden, and biased views from people who have no connection with Black people and Black culture.

Black history taught in schools does not mention Africa being rich in resources and culture or its importance to other civilizations. Africa was only mentioned when the transatlantic slave trade started. It is often mentioned in history books to shed light on negativity, poverty, “savage behavior,” and the oil refineries.

Black history is everyday history. One month is not nearly enough because Black culture, Black people, and Black history are complex, with a lot to learn from, and have helped to shape and build America. Black history is constantly evolving because historians are constantly piecing the history pieces together. We have history from Africa, the West Indies, and other countries where indigenous black people settled. Students shouldn’t have to major in African-American studies or attend a Historically Black College to receive unbiased and unadulterated lessons in Black history.

Black History Month is often recognized only by African-American people because members of other ethnicities and racial groups may not feel black history is essential to American or world history. Black History Month community programs are usually attended by politicians, community leaders, some black people, and curious onlookers who genuinely want to learn more about black culture and history. Finding a Black History community program where I live in New England despite being surrounded by lots of black history is challenging.

Many people don’t find having a black history program necessary for the community to learn more about the history. Usually, Black History Month celebrations are not well publicized and promoted for whatever reason.

I propose that we celebrate Black history every day and every month so we can gather together as a diverse and inclusive community to celebrate one another because we are all affected by black history. There are so many notable black figures to learn about besides Martin Luther King, Jr., Harriet Tubman, Booker T. Washington, and Malcolm X. There is more to black history than slavery. We had the Harlem Renaissance, Tuskegee Airmen, Black Wall Street, the start of Historically Black Colleges and Universities, President Barack Obama becoming the first Black President, and the list continues. These historical figures and events are essential to Black culture and people and should be included in textbooks and class curricula. It is impossible to cram centuries of Black history into one month out of the year.

Everyone should care about Black History Month! Black History Month is for everyone!
 

Thursday, January 11, 2024

Guest Blog Post: Unraveling the Tangled Web of Stress: A Guide to Identification and Management by Kevin D. Ogle

 

You're not alone in feeling the weight of stress on your shoulders. In today's fast-paced world, stress has become a constant companion for many. Recognizing the sources of your stress is the first step toward managing it effectively.

This journey requires introspection and a commitment to change. As you embark on this path, remember that small, consistent efforts can significantly transform how you experience and handle stress. Brown Girl From Boston shares more:

Pinpointing the Root Causes

The journey to stress management begins with a deep dive into the causes that trigger your stress. It could be the mountain of work awaiting you every morning, the intricate dynamics of your personal relationships, the anxiety of financial constraints, or concerns about your health. Acknowledging these stressors is not a sign of weakness but a brave first step toward gaining control over them.

Financial Health: More Than Just Numbers

Financial stress can be overwhelming, but taking proactive steps to manage it can bring immense relief. Start by focusing on improving your credit score. A good credit score above 740 is essential for favorable loan terms and reflects your financial stability. Essentially, it represents to lenders how likely you are to repay your loans. Managing your finances well is a crucial step towards peace of mind.

Breathing and Mindfulness: The Twin Pillars of Serenity

Integrating deep breathing and meditation into your daily life can be a game-changer. These practices are not just for those with hours to spare; even a few minutes daily can profoundly impact your stress levels. The calmness you'll experience is not just a temporary reprieve but a building block for long-term peace.

A New Chapter: Career Change for Mental Wellness

Sometimes, the stress of a stagnant or overly demanding job calls for a bold move. Consider a career shift as a pathway to mental rejuvenation. The realm of online education has made it easier than ever to acquire new skills without sacrificing your current commitments.

Imagine exploring the complexities of the human mind through a degree in psychology. Learning about cognitive and affective processes can equip you to aid others while enriching your mental health.

The Elixir of Physical Activity

Never underestimate the power of a good workout. Exercise isn't just about physical fitness; it's a potent antidote to stress. The endorphins released during physical activity are nature's stress-busters. Find a form of exercise that sparks joy in you and make it a staple of your routine.

Cultivating a Garden of Positivity

Your mindset is pivotal in how you perceive and react to stress. By focusing on gratitude and mindfulness, you shift from a problem-centric view to a solution-oriented perspective. This positive approach doesn't just alleviate stress; it transforms your entire outlook on life.

Nourishment for the Body and Mind

What you eat significantly impacts how you feel. A diet high in processed foods and sugars can exacerbate stress, while a nutrient-rich diet can enhance overall well-being. Embrace whole foods and experience a healthier body and a more balanced state of mind.

Finding Harmony Between Work and Life

The balance between your professional and personal life is crucial for long-term stress management. Dedicating time to self-care and leisure activities is not a luxury but a necessity for maintaining mental health. This balance is the key to sustained productivity and happiness.

Final Thoughts

Your journey through the maze of stress is unique, but the steps to manage it are universally effective. From understanding the root causes to implementing practical strategies for relief, every step you take is a move toward a more peaceful, fulfilling life.

Managing stress is not a destination but a continuous journey of self-care and mindfulness. Embrace these practices, and watch your life transform into a calmer, more balanced existence.

Blog Post Author

Kevin D. Ogle

Anxious.biz 

Tuesday, January 2, 2024

Being A Strong Black Woman Is Not My Calling



I woke up and decided being a Strong Black Woman was not my calling. Being a Strong Black Woman is not my ministry. I cannot and will no longer kill myself for the sake of keeping my career, keeping the peace, or settling for nonsense. I would rather avoid situations and environments where I must stay strong. 


I woke up and received a download from the Most High to write a quick blog post about being A Strong Black Woman and how I have suffered in silence while taking on unnecessary stress, nonsense, and toxic treatment from myself and others. I am unashamed to state that I brought into the narrative of being a Strong Black Woman and how to be unbothered and stoicism about things that do bother me, hinder me, and keep me stuck in this unhealed, traumatic, and perpetuated lie we have inherited from our ancestors, our Mothers, and other Black Women and often time society. Before getting into my story about being strong, I have to say this: being a Strong Black Woman is detrimental to our mental health, physical health, and spiritual health. 


It affects our mental health: It affects Black Women's mental health because we suffer in silence and internalize toxic messaging, wear a mask, can't be sensitive, and constantly suppress who we are. We have to put our needs on the back burner and become a martyr to be strong and stoic. 


It affects Black Women's physical health because when we internalize the messaging of being strong and not letting your hair down, we are stoicism and unbothered while we are suffering from high blood pressure, rising levels of cortisol, emotional eating, insomnia, underlying health issues such as an autoimmune disorder, fibroids, and more. Many Black Women are taught to be caregivers, prove their worth, and neglect themselves for the sake of pushing through and being strong because you cannot allow others to see you sweat while your mental and physical health is declining. 


It affects our spiritual health; faith and prayer are sometimes all we have. Still, even that is affected because you question the Most High on your internalized struggle: why are you dealing with difficult situations, people, and toxic environments. You become hopeless and helpless because you feel the highest abandon you, and your faith wavers. 


I have decided to break up with being strong because I am exhausted. I am tired of fronting and adopting the ideology of others because that doesn't work for me. One of my managers told me I needed to be strong and toughen up because the "students" would take advantage of me. I needed to rule with an iron fist. No, ma'am, that's not me. Plus, you get more with honey than you do with it. I will not subscribe to being a Strong Black Woman to appease other aggressive, harmful, and toxic Black Women. I refuse to prove my toughness because I come from a long line of Strong Black Women, but on the low, they were resilient; no doubt, they also died at young ages due to stoicism, aggressive stress, toxic environments, and caring for the needs of others while neglecting themselves. I am trading in strong for being soft, sensitive, and sensible. Sometimes, due to the environments and people I was surrounded by, I had to adapt to the Timberland Boot energy, aka being strong, independent, and fiery, but that was exhausting. When I am in survival mode or want to be heard and seen, I revert back to that energy. Still, it doesn't serve me and takes a significant hit on my mental health, physical health, and spiritual health because I was masking my true self instead of walking and living my truth. I have been told that you will have to deal with something and stop crying because people will take advantage of your "weakness" instead of, wow, you are empathetic. Let's cultivate that skill, which is a strength. 


Journal Prompt: Flyness, what are you done with? What are you going to replace that with?
 

Wednesday, December 27, 2023

Curating My Happiness and Peace: Bringing in 2024 with a Renewed Vibe


 When you the sun, you shine on all the Icaruses (uh)

Know my power, I know what my penmanship did (it's dope)
Drop so many jewels, I couldn't even put 'em on wrist (uh)
That's the sacrifice (yeah) when you this nice (ah)
They wanna dim your light (they tryin' to)
But never that (never that)
Never that (never, never, never) - Rapsody, Asteroid

Rapsody, my homegirl, my sis, and one of my favorite artists inspired me to curate and renew my happiness and peace. I had a dope 2023 with a few trials and tribulations with plenty of triumphs from dropping my book (Manifesting Your Greatness), launching The Fly Girl Shop, reaching my financial goals, physical goals, and mental health goals by attending therapy every month, and listening to healing, and embracing a new level of love through self-love and allowing someone else to love me. 

Despite all this dopeness, flyness, and often shyness, I find myself peeling back specific layers of complications, complexities, and vulnerabilities to the point I said, "Yo, people really don't care about you, but do you care about YOU?" Once I had that introspective thought, I had to shut it down. Shut down the inner chatter, the self-doubt, the negative self-talk, and often unanswered triggers. I remember burying my Aunt in late Feb/early March and having a complete meltdown after the funeral because enough was enough. I was exhausted because this was the third death on my paternal side of the family, grieving family members, my divorce finally being over after 2 years, and just finding myself no longer holding on to stoicism and holding everyone down. It took my significant other saying to me..."You should go back to therapy." I found my old therapist and got to work, and I am still working. I am thankful because I have evolved, cried, reached "aha" moments, discovered my inner strength, and made an exit plan in various areas of my life, and now I am curating my happiness and peace vibe for 2024. 

Turning 40 was also eye-opening because you find a liberation switch, and life begins at 40. I have evolved and am more assertive, wanting to live a gentler, softer, wiser, kinder, and loving life. I have had my ups and downs, but I hung in there and kept going. I had my ups and downs with my love life, but a year and some change later, I am still hanging in here. I find myself battling religious trauma and struggling with holiday celebrations. I have many emotions, but it helped me level up personally and professionally and move out of the way. 

I have found myself being fearless, vulnerable (which is a scary zone for me), and glowing up. I deserve all the great things I have received, going to receive, and experience. I am excited to curate my happiness, peace, and love. 2024 will be a vibe, and I can't wait to experience it. In the meantime, I am on a significant social media hiatus because that ish is annoying AF, and I often wonder if people listen, care, and apply the gems. I am at the point in my life in which I have to shrug my shoulders, mind my business, and focus on my happiness, peace, and love. I am focusing on living a healthy, whole, and healed life. Chile, my goal is to live until my 100s, surrounded by love and quality people such as my future husband, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and leave a lasting legacy. 

For those of you who are Day 1 or today's tribe members, I am sending you much love, light, peace, happiness, and freedom. Curate your vibe. Curate your happiness. Curate your peace. Curate your love. Curate a dope 2024. 

If you are interested in reaching out to me, please email me as I am on a social media detox, but my email inbox is drea@browngirlfromboston.com

Tuesday, December 19, 2023

Prof Drea "Normalizing Struggle"


In 2023, we going to leave normalizing suffering and struggling behind. Many times, we suffer and work when we don’t have to! We don’t ask for help. We claim independence instead of collectiveness and interdependence. We abuse and neglect ourselves when we don’t have to. We rock the suffer and struggle cape proudly. Nah!

You don’t get a badge of honor for suffering and struggling. You become traumatized, triggered, burned out, stressed out, mental health illnesses, compassion fatigue, and anger. Prioritize yourself and your healing, letting go, and unlearning unhealthy behaviors.