Friday, January 10, 2025

Dear Sis, You Can Find Love After a Divorce!


“Black love is a reminder of our resilience, our beauty, and the joy that grows when two hearts unite in purpose and passion.” – Unknown

Sis, I need you to know something: love after heartbreak is possible. It’s real. And it can happen at any age, including what I like to call “the big age.” At 41 years old, I recently got engaged—a beautiful surprise that has filled my heart with joy. But let me take you back a little because the journey wasn’t easy.

The Aftermath of Divorce

I never spoke much about my divorce. It was messy, traumatic, and painful. For two years, I went to therapy on and off, working to heal the hurt, unpack my emotions, and rebuild myself. I kept things private, avoiding the drama of "who did what", smear campaigns, and other gossip. I didn’t want to live in bitterness, so I focused on moving forward with grace and peace.

During my divorce, I didn’t date. I didn’t want to add another layer of pain by connecting with someone who might take advantage of my vulnerabilities. Instead, I focused on me. I cried, prayed, journaled, and rebuilt my life from the inside out. I even took solo trips, became my own best friend, and started to truly love myself.

A New Chapter Begins

After my divorce was finalized, I started dreaming again. I sat down and wrote a list of qualities I wanted in a partner, focusing on values and character rather than just surface-level desires. I surrendered it all to God and trusted Him to lead the way.

Fast forward to October 2022. I was at the Morehouse-Tuskegee football classic, looking and feeling my best, just minding my business. Out of nowhere, I heard someone call my name—"Miss Stallworth." I turned around, and there he was—an old friend from undergrad. What started as a chance encounter turned into something beautiful.

Our first “catch-up” outing turned into an unforgettable night. That friend I met in World History class at Tuskegee became my fiancΓ©. And now, we’re planning the rest of our lives together.

Lessons and Love

For my sisters navigating life post-divorce, here’s my heart to yours:

  • Heal Before You Love Again. Take the time to focus on yourself. Cry, journal, pray, and seek therapy if needed. Rebuild from within.
  • Don’t Rush the Process. Dating during a vulnerable time can lead to soul ties you don’t want. Be intentional about your healing before putting yourself back out there.
  • Be Open but Discern. Consult God about your relationships. Stop choosing your “type” if your type has consistently brought you pain.
  • Glow Up and Evolve. Hit the gym, take solo trips, write love letters to yourself, and rediscover your passions.
  • Explore New Spaces. Love may not be in your usual places. Try new events, hobbies, and locations.

Sis, bitterness will age you, but love—starting with self-love—will rejuvenate you. Don’t believe the myth that the dating pool is spoiled. Step into new spaces with confidence, trust God’s timing, and love yourself so fiercely that the right man recognizes your worth immediately.

Your future love is out there, Sis. But first, make sure you love and honor yourself fully. The journey may not be easy, but it’s worth it. Trust me, I’ve lived it. πŸ’•


 

Thursday, August 29, 2024

πŸš€ The Careerist Project is Back! πŸš€



Are you ready to redefine what success looks like for you? We’re thrilled to kick off 2024 with our first workshop to help you create a healthy balance that brings purpose and confidence into your life.
Join Andrea and Shemika as they guide you through The Careerist Project, where you'll uncover strategies for identifying your core values and learning how they can transform your career and life.
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Don’t miss this opportunity to invest in yourself and your future!
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Let's make 2024 the year you step into your full potential!

 

Wednesday, August 28, 2024

Dear Sis, Stop Settling! Choose a Whole and Healthy Man Who Values You


 In this empowering video, I discuss the importance of self-worth and why it's crucial to stop settling for less in your relationships. It's time to stop accepting crumbs and demand the whole cake. You deserve a man who loves, respects, and values you for who you truly are.

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Dear Sis, Stop embarrassing yourself by settling for crumbs when you deserve the whole cake. Don’t willingly participate in your heartbreak just because he might have resources. You are worth more than a piece of a man. Choose a whole and healthy man who wants you and only you.

You deserve a love that is abundant, not conditional. Don’t sell yourself short—wait for the man who sees your true worth and values you accordingly.
Love yourself first, and the right man will follow.

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Tuesday, August 27, 2024

Dear Sis: Everyone Isn’t a Hater: Navigating Criticism, Red Flags, & Relationship Lessons


In this video, I’m diving deep into the misconception that everyone who disagrees or criticizes is a "hater." Sometimes, people just have different perspectives, and that’s okay! We need to recognize the difference between genuine feedback and negativity. I also talk about the importance of self-awareness before entering the dating scene—we should all come with warning signs and red flags to help us determine if we're ready for a relationship or if we need more healing. Plus, I share a personal story about a past engagement with someone who was also dating someone else in another state. Let’s chat about the lessons learned and how to approach relationships with a healthier mindset! In this storytime, I take you back to a bold moment when I reached out to my ex-fiancΓ©'s wife to warn her about the kind of man she was married to. Thirteen years later, she contacted me, confirming that everything I said was true. She shared how my words helped her navigate a difficult divorce, heal, and reclaim her sense of womanhood and sisterhood. This is a powerful story about our impact on each other as women and the importance of speaking up, even when it's tough. Call to Action: If this story resonates with you and you're on your healing journey, I’d love to support you further. Book a session with me at Brown Girl Coaching (https://browngirlcoaching.as.me/clari...) to start your transformation today. And don’t forget to check out my Etsy shop, The Fly Girl Shop by Andrea (/www.etsy.com/shop/flygirlshopbyandrea), for unique accessories that celebrate your fly girl spirit! If you enjoyed this video, please like, share, subscribe, and comment below! Your support means the world to me. πŸ’–

Thursday, August 22, 2024

Mental Wellness with Prof. Drea


In this powerful YouTube video titled "Mental Wellness," Andrea C. Stallworth delves into the critical topic of mental health in the Black community, with a special focus on Black women's mental health. She shares insights on how to nurture holistic well-being by safeguarding the mind, body, and spirit. Andrea emphasizes the importance of self-care and offers practical tips on maintaining balance amidst the unique challenges faced by Black women. Whether you're seeking to enhance your mental wellness or looking for ways to support loved ones, this discussion provides valuable guidance on living a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Friday, August 16, 2024

Dear Sis: Time to Trust Your Intuition and Do Your Due Diligence


Dear Sis, it's time to do your due diligence, think critically, and truly listen to your intuition. Join me in this audio chat to dive into repairing sisterhood and womanhood. This introduction explores the importance of living authentically as women and how we can collectively heal, hold ourselves accountable, and align with the life the Most High has destined for us.

Tune in to the first episode of 'Dear Sis' where we discuss, 'Do Your Googles! Is His Paperwork Good?'—a guide on investigating someone before courting them. Let's journey together toward being better, looking better, and living truthfully.

Need further assistance? Sign up for a free clarity call with Drea at https://browngirlcoaching.as.me/claritycall.