Daily Mantra for Thriving and Surviving

 

Day 7 of the Holistic FLYness Challenge: Truth-Telling

Truth-Telling Affirmation: Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live it fearlessly.

Activity: Go look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth about something you’ve been withholding for some time?

Introspective Questions: What lies have you told yourself recently that you need to debunk? What’s holding you back from living your fearlessly and best life? Besides yourself, who else in your tribe holds you accountable?

Day 4 of the Holistic FLYness Challenge: Restoration

Day 4: Restoration

Affirmation: I love myself enough to do what I need to do to thrive and rest.

Activity: Give yourself permission to restore your mind, body, and spirit. You have been worrying too much, anxious, fearful, and on edge. Please take a break today and indulge in radical self care. Create that homemade spa day, take that restorative yoga class on YouTube, lay in your pajamas all day, give yourself a comedic relief and just relax.

Introspective Questions: How many hours of sleep do you get nightly? Do you take naps/break throughout the day? What restorative coping mechanisms do you need to implement during this stressful time?

Day 3 of The Holistic FLYness Challenge: Freedom

Day 3: Freedom

Affirmation: I have the freedom to do as I choose with my time.

Activity: Do something that's fly, free, and self-expressive. Host an indoor fashion show and showcase your flyness by recording that fierce walk and fashion while striking a pose. Draw, paint, host a dance or karaoke party, write and just be free. You have unlimited choices to be free and fly.

Introspective Questions: If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?

25 Tips for Self-Care For Brown Girls

Sister-Woman, it is time to take care of yourself. Check out twenty-five ways, you can care for yourself everyday, all day. 

1.Self Nurturing Activities
2.Going for a walk in nature
3.Silent Tea Time
4. Taking a warm bath
5. Listening to relaxing music in stillness
6. Color in an Adult coloring book
7. Practice focus breathing
8. Practice tension release exercises
9. Practice Yoga
10. Take a Nap
11. Prepare and eat a nutrient dense meal
12. Take yourself out on a date
13. Buy yourself some flowers
14. Schedule a massage
15. Schedule a mani & pedi
16. Read a chapter in an inspirational book
17. Plan a staycation or vacation
18. Dance in the mirror
19. Enjoy some aromatherapy
20. Go to bed earlier
21. Get your laugh on
22. Meditate
23. Write a love letter to yourself
24. Explore a new hobby or pastime
25. Spend quality time with people that support you

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Own Your FLYness

"I do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me, I love you. There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt." -Maya Angelou

Ever since I can remember, my mom, instilling self-esteem, self-love, and self-perseverance into my life. From birth to infancy to a married adult woman, my mom always let me know how intelligent, beautiful, independent, bold, FLY, revolutionary, unapologetic, positive, business savvy, stylish, and a survivalist. These values I hold dear to my heart because being a Brown Girl From Boston and surviving a cold world.

With the help of my mother, I knew that I had to be a FLY (Fearlessly Loving Yourself) in a world that insists that women especially women of color to love everyone before themselves. When you fearlessly love yourself, you are liberating yourself from unrealistic standards, unhealthy patterns, pathology, mindset and breaking the cycle of self-abuse.

Yes, when you don't love yourself that is displaying self-harming, self-abuse and self-sabotaging behavior. When you don't love yourself it is challenging to accept yourself and challenging to accept others wholeheartedly. You CANNOT love and accept others until you love, accept and own your FLYness. When you own your FLYness, you are free, fearless, fierce and accepting.

No one can give you that feeling. Not a romantic partner, a baby, shopping spree nor traveling around the world. When you own your FLYness, be aware and prepared to have people, especially family members and "friends" to persuade you to stop thinking so highly of yourself. People are uncomfortable with growth and change. People want to keep you comfortable because they are comfortable right where you currently are. When you grow, people lose their everlasting mind and here come the hate, discouragement, and negative energy.

Baby Boo, do you and own your FLYness!

Baby Boo, let's get you on the path of owning and finding your FLYness!

Honor Your FLYness: FLYness comes from within! We all are born with FLYness but either we did not see a great example of self-love or we weren't taught that it comes from within or we were misinformed that FLYness comes from our looks, body, and how many wo(men) chase after us. FLYness is using your power, your voice, your goodness to do amazing inner work and radiate love. When you discover your FLYness, honor it, cultivate it and protect it! It's yours. FLYness comes from your soul.

Show up and show out! In my Chris Tucker voice *Don't ever, ever, ever shrink, dismissed nor minimize your FLYness! FLYness is your birthright! If you can't love you, you can't love anyone else! When you walk into the room, SHINE! Your outfit is cute but are you truly showing up and showing out for yourself. Are you radiating your light? Are you radiating love?

Protect and Accept Your FLYness: My favorite quote/mantra is God is within her, s(he) will not fail! You are a Goddess because God is within you. When God is within you, you have no choice but to protect and accept your FLYness. Stop apologizing for taking care and loving yourself! You are supposed to be FLY. FLYness is essential to surviving. When you are FLY, you are protecting yourself from the games, citizenship, abuse, neglect and other negative energy! When you neglect your FLYness, you become preyed on by abusers, users, and emotional vampires who are waiting to attack and prey on your FLYness! Protect your FLYness!

My challenge to you is to find, accept and own your FLYness! Don't ever allow anyone to tell you not to love yourself. Don't ever allow anyone to tell you that you are being selfish because you are loving yourself first! Remember FLYness is essential for survival!

Repeat after me: I deserve to fearlessly love myself before I can love anyone else. FLYness is my birthright!

Thank you for reading and supporting Brown Girl From Boston!

Coaching Tips: How can you cultivate your FLYness?

Light and Love,

Drea
The Unapologetic FLY Girl Coach

Creating Your Vision Board: Get Your Mind Right, Get Your Vision Tight!

If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer." Matthew 21:22

On August 2, 2014, two of my dear sister-friends hosted a powerful and visual event entitled, " Dream Awake, Create Your Vision" in Providence, RI. This event transformed my life and vision. Not only did I provided heartfelt laser coaching sessions, but I also met positive, beautiful women in which we encouraged and empowered one another to live their best life.  Lastly, I was able to work on a vision board. At first, I was working on my vision board in between the laser coaching sessions in which I honestly put in only 40% of the work into my vision board which left me dissatisfied because I want to visualize and achieve much more. I put my feelings of lack of completion to the side because I was able to inspire, awake and discover the greatness within the women who I was coaching during the event. After the event, I decided to go home and complete my vision board. When I completed my vision board, I didn't realize how that beautiful creation would transform and elevate my life, my purpose and bring my vision to life. 

People host vision board parties for fun, but not fully understanding the powerfulness of creating their vision. When you create a vision board not only is it bringing your vision to life, but it is also manifested the law of attraction. Don't ask or visualize something and refuse to affirm the nature of it. You asked for it, whether it was verbally, in your thoughts and within your heart. When you ask and visualize something, you need to be ready to receive whatever you ask for it wholeheartedly because it's something that you desired and longed for. When you create your vision board, you just can't wish for it and remain stagnant, you have to actually be fearless and be active in obtaining it. You have to transition your mindset and be ready to attract it in your life. In other words, you have to be ready at all times to receive it. Your thoughts, your life, and you must be in alignment with the goodness you are going to receive. Remember, you attract what you are and you want to attract endless positive possibilities. 

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board is a powerful visualization tool that activates the law of attraction. Law of attraction is a universal law which it states that we create our own reality. We are like magnets, we attract the people in our lives (good or bad), we attract experiences, money, homes and whatever your mind, energy, and heart attract. Basically, we attract what we are. If we are positive people who enjoy life, peace and prosperity we will attract those people within our lives while the chaotic, negative and doubtful people will exit out of our life. I am currently going through a life transformation of attracting a healthy, prosperous, drama free, loving, caring, strong, and intelligent sister-friends within my life. 

A vision board is a collage of cut out pictures, word, and quotes which are colorful which activate and stimulate excitement and awakening within our brains to become happy. This collage is something you want to be, do, or obtain in life. You take your colorful cutouts and you post them on a poster board. Remember, when you are cutting out your pictures, words, and quotes, you want it to be specific since you are truly asking for your heart desires. For example, a week before I attended the event, I decided to send in a proposal to speak at Heal a Woman, Heal a Nation 12th annual conference in 2015. I was struggling with the proposal because I overanalyze my greatness and got in the way of making the proposal more complicated than it should have been. Therefore, I eventually submitted the proposal, put the conference logo on my vision board and a few weeks later I was notified that I was selected to speak at the conference. I asked I received, I believed, I visualized, and I attracted that speaking engagement within my life. I was frightened at first because I wasn't expecting the response to appear so soon. Was I ready for the response? Most definitely!

Are you interested in getting your mind right and vision tight? Here are four ways you can achieve your vision:

1. Visualize Yourself Being and Doing: Did you know that 65% of people are visual learners? By being a visual learner, you are able to obtain the information by visualizing the material which is an amazing and creative skill to have. Why not visualize yourself doing and achieving something amazing? When you create your vision board, post your board everywhere and visualize yourself doing, being and achieving everything on your vision board. Post the board somewhere visible, in which you frequently that specific area daily such as your closet or your fridge, take a picture of your vision board and use it as your phone's screensaver, tablet/iPad's screensaver, or laptop screensaver and post your vision board as your Facebook/Twitter cover photo. 
2. It's Your Creation: Your vision board is meant for you. Your vision board is your masterpiece and no one else's . It's your vision, your creation and your life. Remember everyone is not going to understand and agree with your vision and that's perfectly fine because your vision was given to you by the Creator/Most High and that's who receives all the credit. For instance, If you want to become married to a specific person, put that on your vision board and get in alignment with your vision.
3. Overcome your limited self-imposed thoughts and self-sabotaging self-talk. When you create your vision board, you want to take the top of your dreams. You don't want to limit your dreams, nor your vision. When you create your vision board, you want to put things that you may think are unrealistic but realistically you can achieve such things. Stop telling yourself that you can't invest in Apple stocks, you can't become a CEO of a Fortune 500 or you can't make the Forbes list.  Stop limiting yourself, your dreams and your vision. In order to achieve that vision, you have to stop with the negative self-talk, limiting yourself and greatness to something punitive when you were created to be fearless, bold, and amazing. Start your vision board on a positive, upbeat and bold note. If you find yourself cutting out things that may appear unrealistic and that self-doubt creeps into your heart, continue to cut it out and post it because now is the time for you to start moving from your comfort zone to a "challenging and anything is possible" zone. As long as you have the attitude of anything is possible if I ask, believe and receive, you will achieve your vision.
4. Stop Overanalyzing and Creating Drama. Did you know when you over-analyze something you are creating unnecessary drama and unnecessary reality for yourself? I tell myself, my clients and other people get out of your head and get into your heart. Think less and feel more. Many times in life, we think so much that our heads figuratively exploded, which keeps us stuck, frustrated and bitter. We need to feel more and get more intuitive with ourselves. Whenever we create a vision board, we often over-analyze the things we put on our vision board. We start to question ourselves and our abilities to actually achieve and visualize our greatness. For example, when I created my vision board, I put one of my favorite vacation destinations, St. Thomas, USVI because I am going to take my coaching services there along with having retreats there. You see the keyword "I am" I did not say "I might". I didn't over-analyze what I said because I dug deep into my feelings and affirmed my vision. You have to affirm what you want without overanalyzing it. Once you over-analyze your vision, you already limited yourself and affirmed fear. Affirm what you want.

There are various ways that you can create your vision board. You can create your vision board by gathering old magazines, printing out pictures, quotes, and word from the internet and posting them on your poster board. Whatever pictures, quotes, words, and things ignite your excitement and passion, choose that one and post away. Secondly, Oprah.com has an amazing free online dream/vision board tool. Check it out here dream/vision board. Here are some handy questions that will help you to create your best vision board:

What would you do differently when you realize your goal?

Where would you travel?
Where would you live?
What would you wear?
What things would you own?
What kind of vehicle would you drive?
What would you do for work?... Or would you work?
Who would you help?

Coaching question: Have you created a vision/dream board before? If so, what are three things have you achieved from your vision/dream board? How often did you look at your dream/vision board? Make sure you comment on the post.

P.S. These two vision boards that I've posted on the blog are examples of my own vision boards that I created. I have one for my vision and I have one that represents positive Black women and the love and light we share!

Thank you for reading Brown Girl From Boston

XOXO,

Drea