Young, Black and Broken: A Colorful Journey to Healing

"I've been on the low key grinding
(Grinding, grinding, grinding)
Learning on the low key, shining
Tryin' to keep to myself
But you bring me out of character
Every time again" -SZA, Go, Gina,

Happy New Year! What can I say about 2017? Well, it was filled with trials, tribulations, and triumphs. Yet, I've managed to survive and thrive. I became the poster child for the "Young, Black, and Broken" because I was that person in 2017! How Sway?

I was diagnosed with Chronic Anemia. Anemia is a condition in which you don't have enough healthy red blood cells to carry adequate oxygen to the body's tissues. Having anemia may make you feel tired and weak. On top of being diagnosed with anemia, I was also diagnosed with Uterine Fibroids. Yikes. Uterine fibroids are benign lumps that grow on the uterus. Symptoms may include heavy periods, cramping, painful sex, and an urge to urinate. Over 80% of African-American women will suffer from fibroids by the age of 50. 

Yo, I felt as if my life came crashing down at the same damn time. I had to cancel numerously speaking engagements and outings because I was that ill and broken. I had to schedule things around my menstrual cycle because my cycles were uncontrollable. My illness debilitated my whole life, to the point I suffered from depression and anxiety. I couldn't get out of bed. Some days I would just cry my heart out. There would be days, weeks, and some months that I couldn't look at myself in the mirror because I was broken and traumatized. When you can't enjoy, love, and trust the eyes looking back at you, that's brokenness, Flyness. 

Besides being broken, you also have others who take advantage of your brokenness. I had to go "hot ham hoe here we go again" on a few people who have taken advantage of my broken nature during this junction of my life. I just had enough of dealing with people, especially women who violated the sisterhood code. I was sick and tired of the f^&kery, thievery, and dishonesty. 

Literally, everything around me was falling apart. In February, my husband lost his job. Agh! When a man loses his career, he loses his confidence in providing for his family. The bad news kept coming, which included being denied into a program for 1st home buyers. We took the Ls and kept it moving. I figured we weren't meant to lay our foundation down in New England. Why force something when things are supposed to flow?

While our world came crashing down, my husband and I made a difficult decision to get the eff outta Providence and relocate Down South! Let's recap, shall we! My husband became unemployed in February. The surgery took place on March 31st; we packed our apartment and relocated on April 30th. Yes, we are still sane. 

I notified ten people about our relocation. On the other hand, my husband went and broadcasted all of our business on the Book! (Insert side-eye forever) Guess what? Everyone, including the fakers, snakes, fair-weather folks, and their Mama, reached out to be nosy! Mind you. These folks don't care about us! All of a sudden, you have a change of heart. Nah!

Dear God, I'm Here!

What Did I Learn During the 2017 Transition:
"Healing Hurts, Healing Sucks"  Since I've been on this journey of healing internally, I have realized life and recovery aren't linear! One minute you are completely okay; the next, you may be rocking back and forth doing the ugly cry because something triggered that unhealed situation.  You have to be vulnerable and ready to heal. Sometimes, healing includes sitting silently! Recovery involves honesty with yourself.  We are never prepared to hear the truth and often try to find an alternative way to heal instead of pain. Hence, we see many people self-medicate because many are in a state of trauma and can't bear to deal with reality. During my healing process, I got to reconnect with some dope people. I still cry from time to time. My marriage almost went to hell, but we are working on being better people and more divine spouses for one another. Another funny and strange thing about healing is when randoms such as exes, users, and old friends try to creep back into your life. Chile, who are you and what do you want?  I had to regain my strength, independence, and my holistic life. God is taking the wheel. I am letting ish go. I had to let my life crumble and rebuild. I am rebuilding and trusting the process like the Philadelphia 76ers. 

I Am Learning How to Love Drea Once Again! Loving yourself is a long-suffering, everlasting, cold, warm, FLY, humbling experience. Yo, self-love, and healing are scary. AF is exciting, carefree, ugly at times, sassy, FLY, rhythmic, Divine, spiritual, and Godly. Self-love is vital but complicated.  Self-love is a learned behavior that is somewhat innate. You would think it is natural, but somehow down the line, we often unlearn how to love ourselves because we are thrown into this abyss of self-sacrificing and putting ourselves last. 

People don't truly trust themselves because they don't recognize themselves, and often they don't love themselves. We get caught up with social media's controlled content, chasing the bag, chasing an illusion, and chasing nonsense. We get caught up with all these things and truly forget about our daily purpose: self-preservation, self-care, self-esteem, self-love, and self-respect. When we neglect these things, we often cheat ourselves and lessen ourselves to accept any low and basic behavior and habits.  Loving myself looks different daily. Loving myself consist of going to a Rapsody concert and allowing the boom-bap rap to uplift my spirit. Loving myself consist of walking away from negativity and toxicity. Loving myself standing on my square and speaking my truth to power. Loving myself consist of rocking me, accepting me, validating myself first in a cold world that often diminishes, degrade, dismiss, and disrespect the Black Woman, the Black Man, and Black Child. Loving myself consist of living an unapologetic, compassionate, and purposeful life. 

I also want to give flowers to the following people because they were instrumental in my healing process, and I bet they haven't known until now! So, giving flowers to My Mom, Jaquetta, Barby, Shemika, Markita, Michelle B., Michelle D., Chantal, Walter (My Mentor) and his wife Josefina, and Ms. Marilyn. 

Thank you to everyone who has reached out to me via email and social media to offer light, support, and encouragement during a rough time in my life. I see you, baby, and keep shining. 

Thank you for reading this honest, raw, and unapologetic blog post. I hope you will take the time to tap into some unhealed spaces within to heal the pain. Remember to trust your colorful progress and process. 

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Part 1 of My Life With Fibroids: Pre- Laparoscopic Myomectomy Surgery

I am going through two major life transitions at the same damn time...1. I am packing up my entire home and relocating Down South, and I am finally getting my fibroids removed. Lawd have mercy on my uterus, vagina, and reproductive organs. I am one of millions of Black women who are of childbearing age who suffer from heavy menstrual cycles, unexplained weight gain, long and miserable periods, pelvic pressure, frequent urination, depression, anxiety, lowered self-esteem, and more. I am very thankful that these fibroids will be gone from my life.


According to the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, 80-90% of African-American women will develop fibroids by age 50. Some may have no symptoms but hundreds of thousands like myself will deal with symptoms. If this is you, please seek immediate attention. If your gynecologist doesn't listen, fire him/her and get answers from another professional. I live in Providence and had to go all the way to Massachusetts General Hospital and hire Dr. Douglas Brown to help solve my issues, and he will be my surgeon. Check out the Fibroid Study at MGH. Also, don't allow any physician to tell you that you need a hysterectomy, especially if you don't have any children. They can remove fibroids and keep your uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes. If you are a Black Woman, they will try to push that on you due to decreasing the number of Black Babies being born, take your cells like Henrietta Lacks, and do God knows what. You can get a myomectomy, a surgical procedure that removes the fibroids while leaving the uterus intact. It is a minimally invasive surgery with 4-5 incisions via your belly button and other areas of your stomach.


I will show you and explain more during Part 2 of my Post-Laparoscopic Myomectomy Surgery!


This is part 1 of my video about dealing with submucosal fibroids, which wreak havoc on your entire beautiful life. Come check out how I have coped for two years and what led me to finally say enough is enough.
I have been suffering from submucosal fibroids for about two years along with hypothyroidism. I am finally getting my laparoscopic myomectomy surgery at Mass General Hospital in Boston, MA. No more suffering with fibroids. If you are suffering from fibroids, this video is for you.

If you reside within the New England Area, please check out Dr. Brown at the 
MGH Fibroid Study: www.massgeneral.org/fibroids

Supplements Used during PMS and shrinking fibroids. 
Liquid Vitamin D
SSS Tonic/Geritol
Heating Pad with Castor Oil
Moon Cycle Tea by Yogi
Eliminate dairy
Red Raspberry
DIM
Pau d'Arco tea
Black Cohosh herbs
Mangosteen Juice