Showing posts with label holistic living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label holistic living. Show all posts

Thursday, July 24, 2025

How to Stay Consistent With Your Wellness and Self-Care Goals (Even When Life Gets Loud) (Guest Blogger: Kevin Ogle)


You’ve committed. Maybe it’s yoga at dawn. Maybe it’s drinking more water, skipping late-night scrolls, or journaling your way through burnout. The intention is solid, but consistency? That’s where it all frays. Life isn’t built for perfect routines. Work intrudes. Schedules shift. Motivation surges and drops like a Wi-Fi signal in the woods. Staying consistent with your self-care doesn’t mean forcing rigidity. It means building a flexible rhythm that still carries you forward, especially when your day gets loud. These strategies won’t demand perfection. They’ll help you show up anyway.

Define your baseline
Start with what’s real. Not aspirational—real. That means mapping your week and spotting the margins. Five minutes in the morning? That’s movement. A walk while you voice-text your friend? That’s a mental reset. The biggest trap is believing that if you can’t do it perfectly, it’s not worth doing. But why small habits matter is grounded in science. Consistency grows from repeatable, friction-free actions, not giant resolutions. Build your self-care rhythm from what already fits—then layer, don’t leap.

Start with your energy
Timing matters more than willpower. If your mornings are a flurry of alarms and obligations, don’t jam a new habit in there. Instead, find your personal energy peaks. It could be mid-morning quiet or late-night calm. Schedule around your energy instead of fighting it. You’ll sustain rituals longer when they flow with your internal rhythm. This isn’t about maximizing productivity—it’s about making self-care easier to return to when motivation dips. You’re not lazy. You’re just running your routine at the wrong time.

Simplify your start
When mornings feel scrambled, consistency depends on friction-free choices. Instead of skipping nourishment altogether or stressing over an elaborate breakfast routine, simplify. Keep one thing easy, automatic, and good for your body. If you're trying a supplement, it helps to check out greens powders quality before buying—something fast, nutrient-rich, and clean can anchor your day without cooking or cleanup. It’s not about hacks—it’s about supporting your baseline so you can focus on showing up.

Lean on others
There’s nothing soft about needing support. Self-care doesn’t mean solo care. Momentum multiplies when you’re connected. Whether it’s a check-in buddy, a shared fitness goal, or a Slack group swapping green smoothie fails, group exercise boosts consistency and accountability. Don’t just announce your goal—invite someone to nudge it forward with you. We tend to show up more consistently when someone else is watching (and cheering). That’s not weakness. That’s psychology.

Track without pressure
You don’t need to quantify every step or meal. But your brain craves feedback. The key is light, not obsessive, tracking. Something visual you can glance at. A calendar. A streak counter. A notebook scribble. The goal isn’t data—it’s rhythm. When used gently, habit tracking builds consistency by reinforcing effort, not outcomes. Skip the guilt spiral if you miss a day. This is scaffolding, not surveillance. 

Simplify digital life
Screens steal more than time—they fracture attention and amplify stress. Carving out even 30 minutes a day where you’re offline helps reset your nervous system and recalibrate your presence. That’s not poetic—it’s physiological. Set screen-free hours to make space for something analog. A stretch. A breath. A real conversation. This isn’t about rejecting technology. It’s about using it with intention and creating room to exhale.

Adapt your routine
Consistency is not rigidity. When your routine breaks down, don’t scrap it—scale it. Travel, illness, burnout, kiddo chaos? All of it is normal. And all of it disrupts even the best routines. The key is adapting without losing momentum. Stay consistent through shifts by having flexible versions of your habits. Can’t do a 30-minute run? Walk for 5. No time to meditate? Three deep breaths. Keep the identity, shrink the action.


There’s no final version of your wellness routine. It’s a living, shifting structure. Some weeks it’s smooth. Other weeks, it’s survival. But the goal isn’t to “master” self-care—it’s to return to it, again and again, with grace. What keeps you consistent isn’t iron willpower. It’s design. It’s a community. It’s gentleness. And it’s the trust that showing up for yourself—even imperfectly—is still showing up. Whatever life throws, you’ve got the tools to anchor back into yourself. That’s the win.

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Sunday, March 17, 2019

Ep2: Black Student Success: Setting Goals, Intentions and Expectations





Students, you should have three goals per semester to set and achieve. When you set goals, have daily intentions, and high but realistic expectations; you will be able to be holistically successful.

Saturday, January 6, 2018

Young, Black and Broken: A Colorful Journey to Healing


"I've been on the low key grinding
(Grindinggrindinggrinding)
Learning on the low key, shining
Tryin' to keep to myself
But you bring me out of character
Every time again" -SZA, Go, Gina,

Happy New Year! What can I say about 2017? Well, it was filled with trials, tribulations, and triumphs. Yet, I've managed to survive and thrive. I became the poster child for the "Young, Black, and Broken" because I was that person in 2017! How Sway?

I was diagnosed with Chronic Anemia. Anemia is a condition in which you don't have enough healthy red blood cells to carry adequate oxygen to the body's tissues. Having anemia may make you feel tired and weak. On top of being diagnosed with anemia, I was also diagnosed with Uterine Fibroids. Yikes. Uterine fibroids are benign lumps that grow on the uterus. Symptoms may include heavy periods, cramping, painful sex, and an urge to urinate. Over 80% of African-American women will suffer from fibroids by the age of 50. 

YoI felt as if my life came crashing down at the same damn time. I had to cancel numerously speaking engagements and outings because I was that ill and broken. I had to schedule things around my menstrual cycle because my cycles were uncontrollable. My illness debilitated my whole life, to the point I suffered from depression and anxiety. I couldn't get out of bed. Some days I would just cry my heart out. There would be days, weeks, and some months that I couldn't look at myself in the mirror because I was broken and traumatized. When you can't enjoy, love, and trust the eyes looking back at you, that's brokenness, Flyness. 

Besides being broken, you also have others who take advantage of your brokenness. I had to go "hot ham hoe here we go again" on a few people who have taken advantage of my broken nature during this junction of my life. I just had enough of dealing with people, especially women who violated the sisterhood code. I was sick and tired of the f^&kery, thievery, and dishonesty. 

Literally, everything around me was falling apart. In February, my husband lost his job. Agh! When a man loses his career, he loses his confidence in providing for his family. The bad news kept coming, which included being denied into a program for 1st home buyers. We took the Ls and kept it moving. I figured we weren't meant to lay our foundation down in New England. Why force something when things are supposed to flow?

While our world came crashing down, my husband and I made a difficult decision to get the eff outta Providence and relocate Down South! Let's recap, shall we! My husband became unemployed in February. The surgery took place on March 31st; we packed our apartment and relocated on April 30th. Yeswe are still sane. 

notified ten people about our relocation. On the other hand, my husband went and broadcasted all of our business on the Book! (Insert side-eye forever) Guess what? Everyone, including the fakers, snakes, fair-weather folks, and their Mama, reached out to be nosy! Mind you. These folks don't care about us! All of a sudden, you have a change of heart. Nah!

Dear God, I'm Here!

What Did I Learn During the 2017 Transition:
"Healing Hurts, Healing Sucks"  Since I've been on this journey of healing internally, I have realized life and recovery aren't linear! One minute you are completely okay; the next, you may be rocking back and forth doing the ugly cry because something triggered that unhealed situation.  You have to be vulnerable and ready to heal. Sometimes, healing includes sitting silently! Recovery involves honesty with yourself.  We are never prepared to hear the truth and often try to find an alternative way to heal instead of pain. Hence, we see many people self-medicate because many are in a state of trauma and can't bear to deal with reality. During my healing process, I got to reconnect with some dope people. I still cry from time to time. My marriage almost went to hell, but we are working on being better people and more divine spouses for one another. Another funny and strange thing about healing is when randoms such as exes, users, and old friends try to creep back into your life. Chile, who are you and what do you want?  I had to regain my strength, independence, and my holistic life. God is taking the wheel. I am letting ish go. I had to let my life crumble and rebuild. I am rebuilding and trusting the process like the Philadelphia 76ers. 

I Am Learning How to Love Drea Once Again! Loving yourself is a long-suffering, everlasting, cold, warm, FLY, humbling experience. Yo, self-love, and healing are scary. AF is exciting, carefree, ugly at times, sassy, FLY, rhythmic, Divine, spiritual, and Godly. Self-love is vital but complicated.  Self-love is a learned behavior that is somewhat innate. You would think it is natural, but somehow down the line, we often unlearn how to love ourselves because we are thrown into this abyss of self-sacrificing and putting ourselves last. 

People don't truly trust themselves because they don't recognize themselves, and often they don't love themselves. We get caught up with social media's controlled content, chasing the bag, chasing an illusion, and chasing nonsense. We get caught up with all these things and truly forget about our daily purpose: self-preservation, self-care, self-esteem, self-love, and self-respect. When we neglect these things, we often cheat ourselves and lessen ourselves to accept any low and basic behavior and habits.  Loving myself looks different daily. Loving myself consist of going to a Rapsody concert and allowing the boom-bap rap to uplift my spirit. Loving myself consist of walking away from negativity and toxicity. Loving myself standing on my square and speaking my truth to power. Loving myself consist of rocking me, accepting me, validating myself first in a cold world that often diminishes, degrade, dismiss, and disrespect the Black Woman, the Black Man, and Black Child. Loving myself consist of living an unapologetic, compassionate, and purposeful life. 

I also want to give flowers to the following people because they were instrumental in my healing process, and I bet they haven't known until now! So, giving flowers to My Mom, JaquettaBarbyShemikaMarkitaMichelle B., Michelle D., Chantal, Walter (My Mentor) and his wife Josefina, and Ms. Marilyn. 

Thank you to everyone who has reached out to me via email and social media to offer light, support, and encouragement during a rough time in my life. I see you, baby, and keep shining. 

Thank you for reading this honest, raw, and unapologetic blog post. I hope you will take the time to tap into some unhealed spaces within to heal the pain. Remember to trust your colorful progress and process. 

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Tuesday, December 26, 2017

The FLY Girl Effect Group Coaching


Make sure you join us for the 4-week personal, professional, and holistic group coaching program starting on January 10th! 
The FLY Girl Effect Group Coaching:  Finding Your FLYness, Journey to Self-Love, Self-Care, and Personal Development & Growth FLYness is your birthright... Have you ever asked yourself what is my life passion and purpose? Why was I created? I am on the verge of personal career, professional and overall burnout. I need to turn my life around, I need some direction in my life! Why do I put everyone's needs first and forget all about needs and I am angry about that? Here is what you will get while participating in The FLY Girl Effect Personal Development Course: Daily lessons and growth work on self-love, self-care, and personal development Daily affirmations especially focus on self-love, self-healing, self-care, and growth Four live group coaching calls with me along with recordings Private Facebook group to access lessons, growth work, networking, and coaching The FLY Girl Effect 30 Days Personal Development Course will start on your time!
Topics we will cover:
Week 1: Establishing Healthy Habits and Consistency
Week 2: Self-Care for FLY Girls-Taking Care of Our Physical, Emotional, and Mental Health
Week 3: Money Making FLY Girls-Get Money, Manage Money, and Learning Money
Week 4: Getting Our Entire Lives in Order-Freeing Ourselves From Chaos and Establishing Order
You will have daily assignments, weekly live video group coaching sessions, and a private Facebook group to hold sacred and safe space for your growth, struggles, and triumphs!
I look forward to having you in the FLY Girl Group!

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Thursday, October 6, 2016

The Go-In Tribe: An Online Support Group Created For Us By Us



All it take is one article (http://bit.ly/leaninnot), one online and offline discussion, two best friends who are passionate about personal and professional development for women of color, with one common goal in mind for women of color to "Go-In" in a sacred and safe environment. Less Talking and More Action. 
Interested in the Go-In Tribe? Please fill out this short form and we will get back to very soon! Let's Go-In, Brown Girls: bit.ly/goinform