Friday, February 16, 2018

Why I Am Sick and Tired of Fluffy, Phony, and Overpriced Empowerment Conferences and Brunches

From time to time, I go off on a tangent on social media, especially when I come across expensive, fluffy, fake, straight cash homey, empowerment conferences and brunches. I love brunch. I brunch so hard. I will wake up early as hell for brunch because I am a foodie let's face it. Back to the topic... I am sick and tired of being sick and tired of just discussing the same ole same ole.... Girl Boss, Black Girl Magic Boss, "How to X amount of dollars even though I haven't made those dollars", rah-rah and blah-blah empowerment workshops and brunches. I can admit that I have fallen victim to this kind of empty empowerment brunches and conferences once upon a time until I woke the hell up and realize that it really didn't solve the root of the issues. I realize at these empowerments, we didn't talk about the realness. The realness such as the severity of mental health, medical apartheid within the Black Community, infant mortality rate, miscarriages, postpartum, poverty within the Black Community, food deserts, environmental racism, lower level socio-economics, self-esteem, and more.

When are we going to have those conferences on physical health, mental health, socio-politics, economics, spirituality, quality of life, self-esteem, confidence, and healing?

We need these things intact as a community before we can get the coins, look fly, and be a BossBae. Honestly, I’m burnt from empowerment conferences and brunch, and I’m a speaker! I’m tired of the feel-good-ism/rah-rah for 72 hours and back to the suffering in silence until the next highest price and nonsensical workshop/conference/brunch!

We must think in terms of Community because too many of us are suffering as a collective. As Fannie Lou Hamer states "Nobody's free until everybody's free."

Since we are on this topic, I would like to discuss the cost of these said conferences and brunches. Many of these conferences are for women of color or Black Women per say. Black Women net worth is only worth $5. Yes, you read that correctly $5 Effin Dollars! You don't have to believe little ole me... Check out this article: "Median Wealth For Black Women at $5 and We Don't Care". Some of you might say, well "those" women aren't part of my demographic because they cannot invest x amount of dollars. What? Don't you understand you too are part of that demographic, Beloved! Please don't don't you are excluded!  African American women are only worth $5 but we are the most educated, underpaid, broke, and hard-working people who deserve full health! Some of those women would love to attend a life-transforming conference, but you tell them to find the money from somewhere or somebody. Some don't offer scholarships or payment plans because you are all about getting straight cash money. I am often disgusted when I hear people state that folks should find the money from somewhere to invest in said programs and conferences. We are in the State of Emergency as a collective. We are living paycheck to paycheck and one mishap away from homelessness or unemployment. How dare anyone of us to tell anyone to pull themselves by the bootstrap and find the money from somewhere and folks are out here trying to survive? I live in reality and it is real in the field out here.
Yes, being in business, you are want to make a profit, but stop trying to guilt trip and manipulate your attendees into "investing" into mediocre products and services they cannot afford. Yes, many of your attendees cannot afford these products and services, especially if your target is Black Women, who are trying to make something out of nothing.  If you are going to provide a product/service, make it affordable, life-transforming, and investment worthy. We all have something to offer, especially resources, but stop selling hope and dreams to people who are already in debt and one paycheck away from homelessness.

Question to the tribe: How do you feel about empowerment brunches and workshops? Do you attend them? Has your life transformed from one? What topics would you like to see discussed at said events?

As always, thank you for reading the blog post. Thank you for rocking with Brown Girl From Boston Tribe!

Peace, Love, and Light!

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