Day 5 of The Holistic FLYness Challenge: Resilience

Resilience Affirmation I am in control of my feelings. I am okay with not being okay. This too shall pass.

Activity: We all have the capacity and grit to bounce back from adversity, life challenges, and disappointment!
I want you to think of time within the last 30-days in which you struggled with a challenging event, person, or situation. How did you feel within going through that struggle/challenge? How did you handle it? Are you stuck in your emotions despite it was in the past?

Introspective Questions: Do you truly value your ability to have that bounce back magic aka resilience? How do you have adversities and challenges such as this pandemic? Do you unpack there and live there or do you fight your way out of a difficult setback?

From the South With Love!

“Don’t try to convince anyone that you’re a good person. Quit trying to win someone over who isn’t kind, but only tolerates you-you don’t need their approval. Be kind, be respectful, but you don’t have to stay… go where you are celebrated. Keep living forward and trust that the right people are there. You never need to convince anyone to love you." -Anonymous

Happy 2020! We made it another year, another decade, and another day. I am still here in Bama living my best and simple life. I am celebrating every moment and minute because sometimes we often take advantage of where we are in the journey and want to rush through the process of despair, hurt, and embarrassment. Everything that you are experiencing is preparing you to be resilient. Now, people think resilience is just being gritty, mentally tough, and Teflon Don strong. Nah. Being resilient is to understand how to recover from pain, trauma, drama, and shame. Being resilient is having the ability and confidence to learn and navigate past experiences without staying stuck and defeated. 

This year is my 3rd year living in Alabama and I am enjoying my experience thus far. I am easing my way into relationships (old and new), brought my 1st home in April 2019, learning new coping strategies, skills, hobbies, and learning how to chill. I am still battling this mysterious illness, but each day I am getting stronger, whole, and healed. I have to give many thanks to my acupuncturist who discovered that I was misdiagnosed and wasting my time taking a medication that I didn't need. 

Was I hurt? Of course, but like Diddy said, "You can't hold me down. Oh no, I got to keep on moving." Not only do I have to keep on moving, but I have some healing and restoration to do as well.  

I am thankful I found a place or the place found me where I can be loved, celebrated, and be carefree when I want to be. I understand life isn't perfect and life is what you make it out to be. Being a realist who has a clear understanding of self-awareness and a sense of self, I prefer to focus on feeling better holistically and having the ability to help others to do the same. There are some days, I am not my best. There are some days, others have to pick up my slack.

There are some days, I want to go awf (off) on folks who are miserable, mean-spirited, abusive, angry, and negative. Then I take a step back and analyze and let them know that they are "out of pocket" and "out of order." That's called setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and being assertive. It's okay to tell a negative, abusive, negative attention seeker, manipulator, narcissists, control freak and, a destructive person that's out of order. It is okay to leave the Tic for Tac messages unread. It is okay to love yourself enough to walk away when pettiness is being served. It is okay to stand alone and be at peace within.

The blessed don't beef with the petty.

I just want to send major love, light, peace, healing, wholeness, positivity, resiliency, prosperity, and everything dope your way. This year will require you to step all the way up to be accountable, responsible, and organized. No more being tolerated, baby. This year it is all about being celebrated.

March is "Ask for What You Want" Month

It's a new month in a new year and I am excited to see what March is going to bring! For the past two months, I have been going through the ups and downs of my personal and professional life. I have finally sat down and asked myself "What Do I Really Want?" I had to really look within to see what are the things I have accomplished for January and February and celebrate those accomplishments. I realized that I was not possessing the attitude of gratitude because I didn't appreciate what I have accomplished and pushed myself more. In the meantime, I had to quiet my mind, meditated, listen to the thoughts that God whispered in my ear and flowed with life.

I am a high achiever, highly energetic, perfectionist in recovery and overall determine brown girl. I have gave myself permission to have several seats for the month of March to prepare for my major speaking engagements, workshops and coaching clients. Within the two months, I have launched my ebook (Manifesting Your Greatness), became an ambassador for Blogger Week in Washington D. C.  and I am speaker at Heal a Woman and Heal a Nation. I also have coaching clients that I coach on a regular basis, coach student athletes on self-esteem, healthy relationships and nutrition along with volunteering my time to the community. Let me take a breathe....

I started to realize that I didn't have a healthy balance in my life in which I started to become burnt out from everything. I stopped everything I was doing and started to really ask for what do I really want? I sat down in a quiet area and started to pray, meditated and journaled what I truly want. When I started the hear the whispers, I started jotting down what I want and how am I going to achieve these things. I started jotting down I want to have more fun, I want to be more creativity, I want to handle my finances in a better and healthy way, I wanted to forgive myself and others, I wanted to start healing myself in a holistic way, I wanted to be more unapologetic and vulnerable and I wanted to travel more. When I jotted down these things, the floodgates started to open.

• I started to open my mail again and started to create a budget to pay off my debt and start saving for my personal savings and business. 
• I started to hang out with my sister-friends more. I have laughed, ate cupcakes, enjoyed pottery classes and talk a lot of trash with my sister-friends and didn't have a care in the world. I even stayed up to 2:30am like I was back in college and graduate school.
• I have enrolled into the Iyanla Vanzant's Forgiveness online six week class in which I am learning more about the power of forgiveness and how to forgive myself. 
• I have enrolled into a six week womb detox group coaching program in which I found a spiritual mother/mentor and met more positive sister-friends in which I am sharing in the healing process with. I have did the ugly cry, able to receive greatness and forgiveness while healing my womb. 
• I have started preparing to run in three 5ks marathons for this year. It is a scary and daunting task but I am loving every minute of it. 
• I am traveling more this year for speaking engagements. I am speaking in Maryland, Washington D.C. and Detroit, MI. I am excited because I am able to spread my unapologetic message to women who are in need to hear it. 

Asking for what I want wasn't a hard task to do. I just had to quiet my mind, organized my thoughts and prepare to receive the greatness. I was afraid to honestly receive because I have been rejected by man. I have been rejected by society, a job, relationships, and in friendships. The powerful message I can share about rejection is that it prepares you for greatness. It prepares and protect you from mediocrity. I also remember that man's rejection if God's blessing. God is preparing YOU for something better than the things you were rejected from.

Make sure you are asking for positive things you truly want and be ready to receive!

Coaching question: What do you truly want? Have you asked for it? Are you in the season of receiving?

Thank you for reading Brown Girl From Boston. I always appreciate your support. Please comment, share and like this post.

Love,

Andrea

P.S. Here is a picture of me being creativity with pottery at Pea Poddery in Cumberland, RI with my sister friends! I have painted the owl and was working on my tea set to remind myself to serve from my overflow.