Showing posts with label unity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label unity. Show all posts

Saturday, January 25, 2025

Dear Sis, Your Voice Matters


Dear Sis,

Your voice carries power. It’s the power to advocate for change, to challenge the status quo, and to inspire others to take action. But here’s the truth: showing up matters just as much as speaking out. It’s not only about standing up for yourself but also about lifting others up along the way.

We live in a time where division is amplified, arguments become the norm, and energy is often misplaced. It’s easy to organize and execute a debate or point fingers, but what about turning that energy into supporting one another? What about using that passion to plan and build instead of tear down? Sis, that diabolical work of separation has no place here.

This is the season to advocate, organize, plan, and execute—not for chaos, but for progress. Imagine the power of unity when we direct our focus toward solutions instead of contributing to the division. Think about the impact we can make when we channel our voices into movements that create lasting change for ourselves and our communities.

Let’s call it what it is: diabolical work when we let division stand in the way of collaboration. But Sis, we are better than that. We are built to be connectors, advocates, and changemakers. When we show up, we show out—not just for ourselves but for others who need to see that strength, that fire, that relentless hope for something better.

So, what will you do today to show up? How will you use your voice to inspire, heal, and uplift? Start small if you need to, but start. Together, we can turn things around.

Call to Action:

Dear Sis, let’s not just talk about change—let’s organize, plan, and execute it. The world needs us, and we need each other.




 

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

B$%ch, Is Not a Term of Endearment!

"Who you callin' a bitch? You gotta let em know, you ain't a bitch or ho" -U.N.I.T.Y, Queen Latifah

In 1993, Queen Latifah dropped the classic, U.N.I.T.Y, she was referring to street harassment from men and assertively addressing men on their disrespect towards women. This article isn't addressing the men but I am addressing my brown girls. Too many times, I hear grown, educated women especially my brown girls addressing another sistas as "bitches" as a term of endearment. Not only do I hear it throughout my daily travels but I also hear this on songs and television shows especially on reality TV. Embracing the term "bitch" reinforces its use and make it acceptable for others to use and call you is not OKAY!

Let's dissect the word bitch:

From dictionary.com
a female dog: The bitch won first place in the sporting dogs category.
a female of canines generally.
Slang.
a.
a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially woman.
b.
a lewd woman.
c.
Disparaging and Offensive. any woman.
Slang. a person who is submissive or subservient to someone,usually in a humiliating way: Tom is so her bitch—he never questions what she decides.

When the term "bitch" comes to my mind, I think of negativity and misogynistic.  Personally, I despise the word for numerous of reasons in which I will explain below:

Reason 1: Indeed I am a female but I am not a dog. Bitch is also a word in which it is gender focused as we can see from the definition above.
Reason 2: Bitch is such a provocative term. I remember being in middle school and I actually got into a physical altercation because this young lady referred to be a "bitch". She said the word with such conviction and anger towards me and indeed I was provoke to put an end to the negativity.
Reason 3: Usually when women are strong, brilliant, assertive, outspoken, opinionated, leaders, and the movers and shakers she is referred to as a "bitch" because she is handling business within her community and household

From my understanding, some women are taking back the word bitch and using it as an empowering term of endearment. But why? I don't find it cute nor respectful when women and men use this ugly and detrimental term.  On the flip side, when certain women use the term bitch to refer to their "friends" or themselves it's okay within their circle but let a man or a woman outside their circle refer to them as "bitches" we have a double standard situation going on. These ladies are ready for war and ready to march for their women's rights and put a stop to misogynist ways.  But ladies, let's think about it, if a man or another woman see you freely refer to yourself or your friends as "bitches" what do you expect? Respect? Dignity? Not at all because people are going to treat you like you treat you.

Why do we need to misrepresent ourselves and downplay the awesomeness we are created to be? Remember, you ain't a bitch or a ho!

Ladies and gents, please feel free to voice your comments.

Thanks for reading!

Stay Brainy, Beautiful and Brown! XOXO
Drea from Brown Girl From Boston

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