Showing posts with label leadership. Show all posts
Showing posts with label leadership. Show all posts

Saturday, January 25, 2025

Dear Sis, Your Voice Matters


Dear Sis,

Your voice carries power. It’s the power to advocate for change, to challenge the status quo, and to inspire others to take action. But here’s the truth: showing up matters just as much as speaking out. It’s not only about standing up for yourself but also about lifting others up along the way.

We live in a time where division is amplified, arguments become the norm, and energy is often misplaced. It’s easy to organize and execute a debate or point fingers, but what about turning that energy into supporting one another? What about using that passion to plan and build instead of tear down? Sis, that diabolical work of separation has no place here.

This is the season to advocate, organize, plan, and execute—not for chaos, but for progress. Imagine the power of unity when we direct our focus toward solutions instead of contributing to the division. Think about the impact we can make when we channel our voices into movements that create lasting change for ourselves and our communities.

Let’s call it what it is: diabolical work when we let division stand in the way of collaboration. But Sis, we are better than that. We are built to be connectors, advocates, and changemakers. When we show up, we show out—not just for ourselves but for others who need to see that strength, that fire, that relentless hope for something better.

So, what will you do today to show up? How will you use your voice to inspire, heal, and uplift? Start small if you need to, but start. Together, we can turn things around.

Call to Action:

Dear Sis, let’s not just talk about change—let’s organize, plan, and execute it. The world needs us, and we need each other.




 

Monday, July 1, 2024

Reflections from My Sabbatical: Embracing Holistic Health and Personal Growth

 


Returning from the hustle and bustle of a demanding career can be a transformative experience. During my recent vacation and career sabbatical, I prioritized my holistic health, allowing myself the time and space to reflect deeply on my professional journey. Here are some key insights I've gained:

1. The Price of Silence

I stayed in environments where my voice was silenced for far too long. I allowed myself to be shortchanged by stagnant institutions and systems that needed to be more active in their ideas, innovation, and practices. This period of reflection made me realize the importance of speaking up and advocating for change, not just for myself but for the betterment of the organizations I am a part of.

2. The Illusion of Power

Job titles often come with clout, power, and control, but these attributes don't necessarily equate to positive and productive leadership, growth, prosperity, or progress. Authentic leadership inspires and uplifts others, fostering an environment where innovation and collaboration can thrive. It's about making a meaningful impact, not just holding a prestigious title.

3. The Insecurity Behind Bragging

I've noticed that individuals constantly reminding others of their successes, accomplishments, and degrees often need to be more secure, power-hungry, and challenging to work with. Their behavior typically stems from jealousy and an inability to appreciate others' accomplishments, likability, and kindness. Genuine confidence doesn't need to be broadcasted; it speaks for itself through actions and integrity.

4. The Hidden Harm in the Helping Professions

It's a sad truth that only some in the helping profession are there to help others. Many are there to cause further harm, driven by their own unresolved and unhealed trauma. This realization underscores the importance of self-awareness and continuous personal development in professions dedicated to helping others. Healing oneself is a crucial step in truly healing and supporting others.

Moving Forward: A Commitment to Growth and Well-being

As I continue my journey, I am committed to prioritizing my holistic health and embracing environments that value innovation, growth, and genuine leadership. This sabbatical has been a powerful reminder that actual progress comes from within and that fostering a healthy, supportive, forward-thinking professional environment is essential for personal and collective success.

I encourage everyone to take the time to reflect on their own journeys, to speak up for change, and to prioritize their well-being. Let's create spaces where every voice is heard, where leadership is synonymous with growth and inspiration, and where the true purpose of helping professions is honored and upheld.

Call to Action

Are you looking to create an exit plan to help heal and tap into your inner peace and happiness? Book a clarity call with me at https://browngirlcoaching.as.me/.

Let's Connect

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. How have you navigated your professional journey? What insights have you gained from taking a step back and reflecting? Share your stories, and let's support each other in pursuing holistic health and professional growth.


Thursday, June 16, 2022

Divine Feminine Leadership


Leading with your femininity and succeeding: I'm constantly sharpening my divine feminine leadership skills because I have a dual role in academia: Assistant Professor and Director of Field Education in the Social Work Department! Academia is highly dominated by masculine energy; sometimes, my sistahs can catch that vibe instead of bringing harmony and balance to the space! It's one thing to be a “pitbull in a skirt,” but you want to make sure you are leading from a divine feminine sacred energy and achieve dope things while achieving things for your University (place of employment or enterprise).
Remember, you can still be in your femininity and lead. I achieve this daily and get ahead because I know the power of abundance; I speak less and listen more while observing the background. I take up space while being kind, warm, and gentle with people. You know, when I enter and leave the room, and that's divine knowledge and wisdom that I practice daily!
How are you leading?


 

Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Are You An Effective Leader?


1. You cannot consider yourself a leader if you don't take ownership and accountability for your behavior and actions.
2. You cannot consider yourself a leader if you don't exude standards, error, humanity, and excellence.
3. You cannot consider yourself a leader if you are constantly showing up late without a proper explanation. I don't do CPT and I don't allow that because it is disrespect and unprofessional. You just don't show up late consistently and think people are going to rock with excuses, Nah. Get a digital calendar and plan out your meetings accordingly. Learn some time management and organizational skills.
4. You cannot consider yourself a leader if you don't advocate for yourself and your tribe. If you are constantly throwing folks underneath the bus, you need to reevaluate your devious and immature actions.
5. You cannot consider yourself a leader if you don't know how to practice self-control, discipline, and emotions. Your tribe shouldn't have to walk on eggshells because you have anger issues, hyper-sensitive, refuse to listen especially to feedback to help grow and progress forward. Yelling, cursing, and throwing temper tantrums isn't going to get you far. Invest in a therapist to help you heal and invest in a coach to help guide, coach, and sharpen your leadership skills.
Thanks for attending Drea's leadership laser coaching session!

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Do You Need To Get Your Life and Career Right? Join The Careerist Project



Brown Girl From Boston and Moore Impactful Career Consulting are in the collaboration of helping you get your mind and career right!  You are reading correctly. We have decided to bring our life, leadership, and career coaching skills to a screen near you. We want to coach, empower, and advocate for the uninspired, undecided, and beyond stressed but dope individuals. We want to transition you to success in your personal and professional life. 


The Careerist Project will help refine and redefine your life career purpose through personal. and professional success. We will help shape, transform, and propel your life and career skills. The Careerist Project is gear towards underrepresented graduating seniors and college graduates who want to think, live, and work outside the box. Your Careerist Project experience is totally remote with accessibility to two coaches. 

To Learn More About the Careerist Project

We will be hosting our first Q& A session on Wednesday, July 17th at 7:00 pm EST/6:00 pm CST.

For more information, please email Andrea and Shemika at careeristproject@gmail.com or call/text me at 334-319-5278. Please pass on this information to your tribe/network.

Love and Light,
Drea

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Being A Young, Fly, Overachiever Administrator: 5 Ways to Effectively Manage Employees

At the age of 29, I found myself on top of my game. I was just hired as the Director of Social Services for a reputable non-profit agency in Rhode Island. My life definitely changed for the better, I suppose! I embodied the young, fly and overachiever status because I wanted to become an Administrator ever since I graduated from undergraduate school. I remember taking a Social Service Management class in graduate school thinking I found my calling. I was proven wrong once I actually became an Administrator.

Becoming an Administrator at 29: I remember preparing for my interview with my former supervisor and the Regional Social Services Director. I wore my Black power suit, had my natural hair in an updo and ready to answer any challenging and curve ball questions about my leadership skills, communication skills, public speaking skills, and defining my work ethics. I exude confidence because I was called to become a leader at a young age. I am in my prime with real life social services experience, you would regret not hiring me.

During the interview, I totally aced the questions and displayed my true vulnerable side of wanting to become a leader. Becoming an Administrator is not a difficult task, the difficult part is managing people who are seasoned employees. I found myself alone during this era because I did not have a mentor nor coach internally who truly had my back and provide support. I had a temporary mentor which was my supervisor who busy, loving and overwhelmed within his role. This same supervisor was eventually transfer within six months of my tenure as Director of Social Services.

I led and managed five case managers who happened to be older, seasoned and skeptical of my arrival. I had to gradually build rapport, lead the team, pull up my sleeves and get dirty all while trying to keep a healthy boundary and working relationship with my team. I also had to constantly problem solve, check my emotions, communicate in a clear, concise and direct manner and affirm my case managers. I had a few dark moments as a supervisor in which one of the main case managers felt that she could override my authority any moment she felt the opportunity to do so. (sigh) Many young administrators are not prepared to handle difficult workers within the workplace.

I had to quickly learn how to establish boundaries within a supervisor/employees role. This particular case manager was just overall difficult to the point, I had to constantly remind her that I was her supervisor, reprimand (provide warnings) and even directly confront her in a professional manner. I believe she was one of the most difficult people I ever met but I respect her work ethic and compassion and eventually discovered her strengths and focus on that and celebrated every small victory we had because we need to celebrate something punitive to get through our work week.

If you are a young, fly and overachiever who is interested in becoming an Administrator, here are five helpful tips for you to effectively manage people.

1. Communication! Communication is key to a successful, working relationship. In order to lead people, you must communicate in a clear, concise, direct and consistent manner. If your team/employee appear lost in translation when you communicate to them, please communicate on their level. Have weekly/biweekly meetings to discuss issues, celebrate victories, discover your employee's strength and cultivate a working relationship. Display that you have their back by actively and mindfully listening to them because honestly your front line staff have the 411 on a lot of things. Pay attention, listen and communicate.

2. Be Visible! Led by example and guide your employees. Don't just into a new work environment and change things immediately because it is not done your way. You have to go slow, assess what's working and what's not working. Ask questions, be open for answers and be present. When you are present, not only are you leading but it shows that you care about the work that is being done by your employees and agencies. Be visible and present for meetings, events and for employees. Don't go back to your cushion office and hide from the problems of the workplace. Your presence is meaningful to the employees because it shows that you are invested in them and the agency.

3. Delegate! Many Administrators are not only overachievers but some are control freaks. Some Administrators feel that no one can do a better job at their job but them. Hence, why many Administrators don't delegate task and assignments because they are fearful that the employees are not equipped to handle various tasks and duties. Let go of the control and delegate task and assignments with a timeline. If you feel that your employees can't handle a task or duty, check in with them during their supervisory meeting time to see how you can provide support. Proving support and taking back the task and completing for them is hindering their work and experiential learning experience. Once again guide and empower your employees to invest in their professional experience.

4. Celebrate Small Victories! Your job as an Administrator is already difficult enough. You have to research and write grants, sit on an executive board, write quarterly reports, manage people, attend to crises and etc. Every now and again you must celebrate small victories. For instance, I wrote a grant to receive a six figure grant to restore, revitalize emergency assistance such as food for the food pantry, utility assistance and clothing vouchers. When we won that grant, we celebrated by throwing a block party for the neighborhood and had an internal party. You have to celebrate the small victories because you will perish and become disgruntled very easy if you constantly focus on the negativity of the job. Also, when you celebrate small victories, it will lessen the turnover rate at the job.

5. Invest in Your Employees and Self! As an Administrator, one of your role is bringing out the best in your employees and within yourself. You want your employees to thrive and grow within their position. You want to help them maximize their full potential by discovering and focus on their strengths. Continuing education, workshops and webnairs are great ways for you and your employees to grown and learn.  

Coaching question: Are you a leader or a boss? What challenges do you need to overcome in your current position in order to become a better leader? Share your comment below in the comment section. 

Thank you for reading Brown Girl From Boston! 

Your sister-friend,
Drea!

Saturday, August 9, 2014

Life Lesson: Never Forget Where You Came From

It's where you been and where you be
And without understanding, you cannot proceed
Complete, the start and the end
Then it just go round again
-Talib Kweli, History

Knowing and acknowledging where we came from is extremely important. We take a piece of our environment everywhere we go. It is ingrained and embedded in our very essence. Knowing who we are, how we think, what motivates us, our values, beliefs, the way we view the world (good or bad), our roots and our historical context impacts everything we think and believe and do.

As a student at John D. O'Bryant School of Mathematics and Science, I also knew which direction I wanted my life to go, I let my light shine bright and I was determined to be positive and leave a lasting legacy at that school and in my life. Hence, I left home at the tender age of 18, to attend Tuskegee University in Alabama to allow my light to shine even brighter elsewhere. I ask I believe and I was determined to attend Tuskegee University. If it wasn't for my tenacity, drive, and work ethic, I would be stuck with my unknown potential and undiscovered life's purpose. As a Bostonian, I am a tough and resilient person with a kind, serving and tender soul.

Last night, I went to the very city that birthed me, raised me and coached me to be the woman that I am today: Boston. I went to Boston to hang out with middle/high school friends who can into town to visit and reconnect with the people, the city, and the culture. I was delighted to see my friends and celebrate our womanhood, our victories, and laugh at our memories but I was in my feelings while visiting Boston. I was so much in my feelings because I was driving through the city yesterday and recognize the gentrification, recognize that things are not the same and even recognized that I am not the same. Things should progress and evolve and people should progress and evolve but not lose sight from the humble beginnings.

When I went back to Boston yesterday, I discovered a few things about myself that Boston provided for me:

If It wasn't for Boston:

  1. I wouldn't know my own strength! In my life, I had my fair share of adversities and hardships. In my own family, we experienced tragedy early by losing my eldest brother to gun violence. When you lose a sibling it is such a traumatic event that you will never get over in your lifetime. I remember my brother babysitting me, nurturing me and just showing me unconditional love to have that taken away within seconds. You have to find another source of strength to handle such a terrible lost. That's why I live my live fearlessly, loudly and boldly because I know how it feels to have something so beautiful taken away. 
  2. I wouldn't know how to be resilient and recognize my greatness. Before my brother's murder, my parent's marriage was in turmoil due to internal and external factors. My parents decided to part ways after 20 something years of marriage. During this time, not only were we grieving the death of my brother but we were dealing with the death of a two-parent African-American household. I was dealing with this loss while attending the James J. Chittick Elementary School in Hyde Park, MA. I was able to still attend school, thrive and manage to be a top student without any behavioral problems. I have to credit Jehovah, my Mother, and our tight-knit village. 
  3. I was able to celebrate and embrace my mother's trials, tribulations, and triumphs. As a 31-year-old, woman, and wife, I appreciate my mother's strength and she taught me life lessons on being a woman, knowing and owning my worth, and letting my light shine. When my parents divorce, my mother had to learn how to pay bills, upkeep and maintain a mortgage, and raising a pre-teen, I salute and celebrate my mother because she decided not to take ownership of being a victim but decided to be a victor. 
  4. I wouldn't know that I could and would be a leader. I had my first taste of being a leader in the elementary school. I was the first person at the James J. Chittick School to start the school's newsletter on our first Apple computers with the Oregon Trial  as the featuring game. (LOL) Yes, I am telling my age. Being the youngest and only girl out my siblings, I had no choice but to being a leader and standing out. I went to numerous of leaderships recruits, mentored and tutored young ones while being a student in high school, being picked Captain of my High School Basketball team two years in a row and being able to lead various organizations within my 31 years on earth. 
  5. I wouldn't know anything about a strong, healthy, work-ethic and work-life balance. Being on the road of entrepreneurship it isn't for the faint of heart because you have to put in major work in and sacrifice a lot such as "Happy Hours" and "meaningless conversations" lol. Just kidding. But, I started working at the tender age of 14 as a Red Shirt for BYCF and my second job as a bagger and cashier at Star Market (which is now Shaws) in Back Bay at the Prudential Center. I don't shine away from hard work but I know how to work smarter and balance my work along with quality time and celebrating my F.LYness.
  6. I would have never met my husband of 3 years. My husband and I have a 17-year history of puppy love, friendship, partnership, and unconditional love. Unbeknown to me, I didn't know we went to the same school in the 7th grade until later on in life. We official met one another through one of our mutual friends at 14 and worked together at Star Market. My husband and I are two weeks apart, born at Boston City Hospital now Boston Medical Center, both Bostonians (he is from Roxbury and I am from Mattapan). Throughout the 17 years, we went our separate ways but maintain contact. I am thankful for my husband because he is very supportive, transparent, authentic and loving. 
Going back to Boston yesterday gave me a restored and refreshed outlook on patience, perseverance,
and persistent. While driving through the city especially my old neighborhood in Mattapan, I got goosebumps and reminisced about the makings of Brown Girl From Boston or simply Drea! I also reminisced about being a being the little girl at 31 Hollingsworth St. in Mattapan MA 02126, full of light, purpose, creativity and living the simple life. Even though my parents retired back to Alabama and I live out of state, I don't get back to Boston as I like to because home ain't home any longer. It is where my roots were planted and grew from, memories stored and I place I go to reminisce (my God). Home is where you make it but never forget where you can f​rom.

Quick Fact: Mattapan is a Native American name for "a good place to be".

Coaching question: Where are you from? How often do you visit your hometown? How did you hometown helped shape you as a person?

We would love to hear from you. Place your comments in the section below.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

For Brown Girls Who Persevere: Anything Is Possible


                   "Most things aren’t impossible, most people just give up too soon." 

As of May 6, 2014, I completed my 12 week business planning class at the Center for Women and Enterprise in Providence, RI. I graduated with not only a certificate of completion but with a completed and thorough business plan. I am writing this blog post to make 5 important points for those who are going through a temporary difficult journey and might possible consider quitting. Quitting is not an option so just keep pushing forward and complete the task ahead. 

I feel like Kevin Garnett after winning the 2008 NBA Championship with the Boston Celtics. He was so hype and so emotional but K.G. yelled to the mountain top, that "Anything is Possible". Now, K.G. preserved as one of the premier and future basketball Hall of Famer. He played for the winless for Minnesota Timberwolves for years until he was traded to the Boston Celtics to play with Paul Pierce and Ray Allen. In 2008, KG, Paul Pierce and Ray Allen finally won their world championship for the Boston Celtics.

Five Ways to Overcome Fear of Achieving: 
  1. Believe in yourself! If you don't believe in yourself, no one will believe in you. You have been created to be you and achieve awesome things. You are wonderfully and uniquely made by God, the higher being. 
  2. Block out the naysayers and dream killers! As long as you are living and breathing, you will always have the naysayers and dream killers preying on your downfall. These naysayers and dream killers can be your significant other, best friend, family and so-called friends. Feed your naysayers and dream killers with a long handed spoon and continue to do you.
  3. Surround yourself with like minded people. Once you surround yourself with like-minded and positive people, anything is possible. These people are your tribe and main supporters. They will be transparent and authentic. They will shower you with positivity and genuine support and love. They want to see you succeed. 
  4. Stop making excuses! Excuses are roadblocks and potholes that YOU set forth. We all made excuses such as I will start (fill in the blank) tomorrow. You don't have tomorrow, you only have today. So, what's wrong with starting today? Excuses equates to self-sabotaging behaviors.
  5. Get out your own way! Just like excuses, we sabotage our own success. We self-doubt ourselves, we listen to other people's opinions about pursuing our gifts and passions. We allow others to place labels and plant the seed of doubt in our spirits and mind. In order to succeed, we must get out our own way. 

I just want to let all of you know that quitting is not an option. I could have allowed people's opinions sabotage my completion of my business planning class. I could have allowed the lack of time and financial resources stop me for enrolling in the class. I could have allowed the high drop out rate in my business planning class influenced me to follow the crowd and drop out. With all those roadblocks, I dedicated myself to fulfill my passion and calling.  I had to take it moment by moment and depend on God to lead me through the darkness and temporary tough times. Remember, tough times don't last long, tough people do. Keep pushing forward and remember quitting isn't an option. Anything is impossible!

Thank you for reading this spontaneous blog post! I want to thank my tribe of supporters because it takes a village of people to help accomplish dreams and goals. You all are appreciated especially my husband and mother who patiently listened and unconditionally love me for me and all my endless ideas and busyness.

Much love from Drea! 
Stay Brainy, Beautiful and Bold!
XOXO