Stop Killing Your Vibe: 4 Ways to be Creative with Courage

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” — Maya Angelou

Day in and day out we give ourselves permission and others to kill our creative vibe. Many times we limit us to discover our life's passion and purpose. We stand in our own way when it come to self-exploration of our deepest passion and life's purpose. We also give permission to others to label us and what we should be doing and take their opinions of our life and continue to live in a dark place in order to please others while we are dumbing our standards and expectation of our greatness.

Drea's Confession of this past week: I held myself and mind captive and allow unnecessary things and people killed my creative vibe. I had to sit in my feelings, de-clutter my mind from the mucky and mess and get reconnected to my purpose which is to serve, uplight, empower and encourage my readers especially my brown girls find their way! The ugly truth, I open Pandora's Box and had to face some hard truths about being this stuck this week. I hope this blog post will help those who are stuck temporarily help you to understand, listen and bring about a solution to press forward to spark the creativity.

I am sure many of you are curious to know how I broke free from my creative vibe killer, with the help of being around my girls from Girl Scouts', discovering and downloading new and old music while blasting it on a sunny and warm Friday, I was happy, liberated and enjoyed the creativity vibes. We all go through some kind of mental block but we must figure out a way to go from being stuck to unstuck.

This week I challenge you to tapping into your creativity with courage. Listen to your innermost desires and reconstruct your thoughts. Here's how:

1. Set limitations and healthy boundaries: We live in an ADHD society in which we are bombarded by a million thoughts, TV shows, gossip, negativity and vibe killers. Many times, we don't have boundaries that protect ourselves or our thoughts. We must set healthy boundaries with ourselves and others. We cannot be everything to everyone. We must be FLY (First Love Yourself) before we can love others. When we are constantly trying to be everything to everyone, we become bitter, on the verge of burnout, and confused. Stop giving permission to those who are vibe killers and protect you and your creativity. What boundaries do you need to create today in order for you to become unstuck?

2. Leave Work at Work : Your home should be your peaceful, safe haven. Many of us are undercover workaholics. We are identifies by our jobs and titles, we talk about our jobs, clients, and work drama while we are out with friends and families. If you are constantly complaining about your work, coworkers, clients and work environment, more than likely you are not happy. Maybe your 9 to 5 is killing your creativity vibe and you need to turn your thoughts around. Start discovering your innermost passion and start working on how to turn your passion into profit.

3. Stop being a party pooper: There is nothing wrong with being a homebody and enjoy the comforts of your home but when you are existing rather than living that is a true sign that your creative vibe is being killed slowly. Stop being a party pooper and enjoy live. Try a new activity, go to a festival, try a new restaurant, listen to a different genre of music, go and experience something new. Stop rejecting new things and start embracing new experiences. Have fun and be the life of the party for once.

4. Be still: Going back to #1, we live in an ADHD society in which people don't know how to be still in the hustle and bustle of world. As human beings in 2014, we always preoccupied with our next unknown move. That's a shame that we must unplug from reality to be still. We are sensitive to being wired and plugged to others day in and day out. Take at least 15-30 minutes a day to unplug from society. Get out the house, ask your sister-friend out for coffee and face to face conversation, read, lay on your coach in silence and just sit with your thoughts. Being still is so important and beautiful because the higher being/God will reveal some powerful stuff to you. When you are constantly bombarded by stuff, your vibe and energy will be killed.

My challenge to you this week: I want you to be creative with courage. Say no to people and things that no longer serve or uplift you. Say no to limiting beliefs about yourself. You can live your life boldly and out loud. Evaluate each lesson from 1-4 above. Do your life reflect one or all of these things? If so, are you what changes are you willing to make to discover your innermost passion and life's purpose? Jot down what your ideal scenario/day would look like once your to transition your thoughts.

Leave your comments, I'd love to hear from you!

XOXO,

Drea

For My Brown Girls: When Being You Is Enough

Hello to all my beautiful brown girls. I’m back with some profound and positive knowledge. As I contemplated on this topic, I was inspired by the lack of self-esteem, self-love, and self-hatred some of us are experiencing within ourselves. Somehow we as brown women at times demean ourselves, morals, conscious, and beliefs to be in the “in crowd” and for the opposite sex.

So I propose a question to you brown girls, Are you hopeless and lost?

First off, if you can admit to being hopeless and lost, than you are on the right track to self-preservation, self-love and self-restoration. You have to be willing to look yourself in the mirror and do something about the self-hatred, lack of self-esteem and lack of self-love. Do you see the connection with the word, “self”? If not let me break it down for you. Self is defined as your consciousness of your OWN identity. We all have some unresolved issues/emotional baggage that lie within self. That shouldn’t give us a pass to go around walking with our heads down, disrespecting ourselves and others, accepting abuse and inappropriateness, and remain in a state of unhealthiness. I believe if you have faith in a higher being and if you are willing to seek professional guidance and apply the guidance in your life, than you are on the road to a healthier and renewed you. If you are willing to change than you have to put in the work for change. Change doesn’t occur overnight!

Brown Girls quit fashioning after another sister’s pursuits, goals, looks and success. Being you is enough and you have nothing to prove to anybody.  Be you! Trying to be someone else is impossible because you don’t know what that individual had to lose or suffer to impersonate them. What the creator has in store for you is for you and only you. Don’t lose your dignity and respect because you want to be a copy cat. Be original and creative and pursue your own dreams, goals, looks and personality. Embrace your uniqueness!   If people don’t like you for being you, than it is time to move on and surround yourself with those who appreciate and embrace your authenticity.  

Sistahs, we need to cease the self hatred and the hatred of one another. Why must we be so negative towards one another? So what if she has on a pair of Jimmy Choo’s  shoes and she is wearing Dior Homme, be thankful for whatever pair of shoes and perfume you are wearing and can afford. She may have sold her soul for those material things. Let’s uplift, encourage, and support one another. We have no right to place judgment on anyone.  Embrace the skin that you are in. Whether you are light skinned, dark skinned, round, slim, have natural hair or relaxed hair, we are all beautiful. God created us in his image and that is an amazing thing to know. Beauty is only skin deep. Being beautiful on the outside and empty on the inside is useless, transparent, and limited. Outer beauty maybe able to get doors open but having character can keep them open.

Let’s continue to destroy the cycle by discovering our true essence by being positive, healthy, loving, and liberated. Surround yourself with like-minded people who are interested in growth, health, and living life your fullest. Misery loves company and we all should refuse to participate in a miserable existence.

Thanks for reading!

Stay Brainy, Beautiful and Brown! XOXO
Drea from Brown Girl From Boston

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